"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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An evaluation from my gf

Rash

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yesterday I heard the "we need to talk" statement and I knew something is wrong so I went to see whats happening and my gf told me that she want to tell me that I have many negative points she listed them like that I am a control freak (she explains that I don't listen to her and I always chose the places where to go and other things...) , I am ice cold (I don't get aggressive when she try to provoke me), I am self centered and selfish , I don't trust people and I don't open up to them and many other things...she told that she tested me many times and the failure is more than the success she only told me about one test where she asked me to go bicycle riding with her and I canceled the date but the next day I took her to do jogging when she didn't want to do it.
what does she mean by that is this some kind of a crap test or its really something wrong with me!!?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If any girl decides to evalulate your relationship, just tell her: "After listening to your evaluation it has come to my attention that we shouldn't see each other anymore, you obviously are looking for an obedient pet and I am not going to be a pet- goodbye it was nice knowing you for a while and I hope your new boyfriend will become the door mat you wish him to be".
 

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Rash said:
what does she mean by that is this some kind of a crap test
Yes, it's a test. You pass by telling her that you and her must not be compatible and you should see other people. Don't ever let anyone pass judgment on you, especially a woman. If someone says you're not good enough for them, tell them to fvck off.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Yeah man. Who does she think she is telling you how to be? You better put her in check or leave some black roses and be on your way.
 

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Good answers...tell us what you do and update man dont puss out remember....you are in control of what YOU do not let someone tell you what to do.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I would end it too. You'll come off as a douche if you say, "I'm not some little dog for you to control" or something similiar. Screams "insecure." Don't be bitter or be a jerk. That's what girls want you to do in a breakup, that way it's easier for them to get over you, because it's easier to remember you being a jerk in the end.

I'd say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry you see me in that light. But, I am what I am and I like it that way. I'm not going to change for you. We obviously aren't as compatable as I hoped, so we should probably quit seeing each other." That way SHE is the one getting dumped, but she can't really call you an *******, because she asked for it and you gave it to her without you having to be an ass in the process.
 

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Agreed on the above posts.

But then again, i would still slightly think about some of the stuff she said and just run it through your head and see what you think.
 

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DJDamage said:
If any girl decides to evalulate your relationship, just tell her: "After listening to your evaluation it has come to my attention that we shouldn't see each other anymore, you obviously are looking for an obedient pet and I am not going to be a pet- goodbye it was nice knowing you for a while and I hope your new boyfriend will become the door mat you wish him to be".


LOL - hilarious
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Yes, it's a test. You pass by telling her that you and her must not be compatible and you should see other people. Don't ever let anyone pass judgment on you, especially a woman. If someone says you're not good enough for them, tell them to fvck off.
Quoted for truth.

Walk away from this one bro.

She gave you a great opening so that you can do the breaking up first so she gets left with the emotional fallout from the breakup instead of you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok I talked to her and surprisingly she told me that she felt we are going into an LTR and she wanted to be honest with me then she started spilling over her guts and saying all the negative things about her so I can know her better before taking this road she surprised me when she said that she is not comfortable being with a man with more value than her because I am more educated and make a lot more of money , she also told me that she is a narcissist, mean to other people (she started giving me examples about he she hurt her friends) and other bad traits of her...
I ended this chat because I had something very important to do and I told her that we will continue this tomorrow.
 

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DJDamage said:
If any girl decides to evalulate your relationship, just tell her: "After listening to your evaluation it has come to my attention that we shouldn't see each other anymore, you obviously are looking for an obedient pet and I am not going to be a pet- goodbye it was nice knowing you for a while and I hope your new boyfriend will become the door mat you wish him to be".
BOO-YAH!!!

It's better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you're not.
 

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she said that she is not comfortable being with a man with more value than her because I am more educated and make a lot more of money

The root of any insult is in the low self-esteem of its issuer. She couldn't tear you down to balance you two out in her mind, so now she is tearing down herself. btw, narcissists don't see their flaws like that. She just has low self-esteem.
 
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