"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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An arguement between three friends

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Suppose three guys know a girl.

Guys #1 and #2 think that said girl is interested in guy #3, for the following reasons:

- When girl comes around, she always talks to guy #3 before anyone else
- When girl is around and in conversation with the group, most of the conversation is with guy #3
- Girl asks guy #3 to do tiny (and relatively pointless) things

Now, guy #3 thinks that girl is just friendly and is the kind of girl that uses looks to get what she wants


Who do YOU think is right? Guys #1 and 2, or guy #3
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sounds like she could be interested but it could be a few things.

she could actually like him,

she could just feel like she has more in common with him and feel a closer connection to him hence why she talks to him first, maybe to get the conversation going and then it's easier for the whole group to talk.

or maybe she just wants to get him to do little stuff for her.

only way he'll know is if he asks her or gets her number.
 
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I was thinking option number 2 and 3 were the more likely ones
 
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Uh, why doesn't guy #3 ask the girl out, one on one?

Jesus.
 
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Phyzzle said:
Uh, why doesn't guy #3 ask the girl out, one on one?
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Maybe he isn't interested, and is just wishing to settle a bet with friends on which option is more probable
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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the main target is not the guy#3.. number 2 or 1...she might be trying to make the the target jealous...could be..
 
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Maybe he isn't interested, and is just wishing to settle a bet with friends on which option is more probable
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Even though you're not interested, there's a HUGE misconception about female behaviour here.

The lesson here is, there is absolutely no way of knowing this stuff from flirty interactions. Chicks obsessed with guys, and uninterested chicks who want attention, will flirt in exactly the same manner. That's why you escalate. Ask for her #, get her alone, yadda yadda.

Sorry, if you want to know, you have to stop analyzing and find out.
 
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I say guy #3 is right. With girls you never know their intentions because they know how to manipulate men to get what they want. Girls know how to exploit their power until the guy stands his ground.

I say, she's using guy 3 for a quick ego boost and seeing how far she can get him to do things for her.
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she's using guy 3 to get thorugh to guy 1 or guy 2. You know how it is, sometimes it's easier talking to the uglier girl to get to her HB friend because fear of rejection doesnt happen with the ugly girl.
 
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