"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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An American guy praises Italy for its "liveliness"

jhonny9546

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I've always thought that for you foreigners who come to Italy, "liveliness" is mistaken for something positive.
Yet, I challenge you to live here for more than five years and realize that much of that liveliness is actually immaturity.

There are few mature people in Italy, yet they are very lively.
They are very rude and disrespectful, yet they are lively.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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He himself says that Italy's peculiarity is its "emotionality," and this very much reflects many of the threads you can find in my writings.
A "confident," "mature," and "respectful" person would be seen as boring here.
"Il nonnetto".

If you're not the type of person who takes the time to test and push the limits imposed by other people, then you're not normal. You're boring.
For those who don't know, here in Italy, it's generally accepted to exceed the limits imposed by others, especially in jest, and so playful disrespect is always seen as a "duty" and never as an "exception."

Do you Americans, or anyone writing from other countries, really mistake being respectful for being boring?

Given this, since I shifted my behaviour from an "italian" one, to an "american" one, and I've created an hybrid, which is a WIP actually, I've noticed women are attracted in a different way.
That could be totally subjective, but I will keep progressing the american way of doing things, like being respectfull, diligent, emotionally stronger, but for the things like humor, kindness, being funny, I'll always keep my italian nature
 

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Yeah, like how PPB's praise the Philippines and Colombia for their " culture ".

From afar and for short periods of time it's great. But when you actually live there...I have Italian friends who fled their own country due to poverty...
 
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