Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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An American guy praises Italy for its "liveliness"

jhonny9546

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I've always thought that for you foreigners who come to Italy, "liveliness" is mistaken for something positive.
Yet, I challenge you to live here for more than five years and realize that much of that liveliness is actually immaturity.

There are few mature people in Italy, yet they are very lively.
They are very rude and disrespectful, yet they are lively.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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He himself says that Italy's peculiarity is its "emotionality," and this very much reflects many of the threads you can find in my writings.
A "confident," "mature," and "respectful" person would be seen as boring here.
"Il nonnetto".

If you're not the type of person who takes the time to test and push the limits imposed by other people, then you're not normal. You're boring.
For those who don't know, here in Italy, it's generally accepted to exceed the limits imposed by others, especially in jest, and so playful disrespect is always seen as a "duty" and never as an "exception."

Do you Americans, or anyone writing from other countries, really mistake being respectful for being boring?

Given this, since I shifted my behaviour from an "italian" one, to an "american" one, and I've created an hybrid, which is a WIP actually, I've noticed women are attracted in a different way.
That could be totally subjective, but I will keep progressing the american way of doing things, like being respectfull, diligent, emotionally stronger, but for the things like humor, kindness, being funny, I'll always keep my italian nature
 

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Yeah, like how PPB's praise the Philippines and Colombia for their " culture ".

From afar and for short periods of time it's great. But when you actually live there...I have Italian friends who fled their own country due to poverty...
 
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