logan
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yet another danish guy, Tk Logan from kobenhagen/københavn, Denmark/Danmark
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
An almost complete list of where a lot of people are from...
- Thread starter Eternal
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
logan
New Member
yet another danish guy, Tk Logan from kobenhagen/københavn, Denmark/Danmark
logan
New Member
yet another danish guy, Tk Logan from kobenhagen/københavn, Denmark/Danmark
h2o
Banned
edit: wrong post
kulowiper
Don Juan
california baby
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Smooth Player 056
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 6, 2005
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- 868
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- 3
San Mateo, California
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
<- Portland, Oregon.
sixefftee
New Member
florida
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
WTF?! Am I the only one from Delaware?! I have to move!
Viper
Banned
Ohio here.
mariosex
Don Juan
new zealand 
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
IQALUIT(get that no U after the Q ya arctic haters)
Nunavut(our land, controlled by the gov't, paid for by american defense systems, sustained by canadian territorial money, ruined by 150 years of sexual abuse, and claimed by canada through "outpost camps")
Canada(Our home and sacred land)
if anybody's willin to front a 1500$ return ticket to and from ottawa, or is willing to charter for 21 G's should gimme a shout
Nunavut(our land, controlled by the gov't, paid for by american defense systems, sustained by canadian territorial money, ruined by 150 years of sexual abuse, and claimed by canada through "outpost camps")
Canada(Our home and sacred land
)if anybody's willin to front a 1500$ return ticket to and from ottawa, or is willing to charter for 21 G's should gimme a shout
Deadly_Assassin
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 8, 2003
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- 549
- Reaction score
- 4
- Age
- 42
Auckland, New Zealand
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wordism
Don Juan
< Texas
The Nice Guy is Gone
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 26, 2005
- Messages
- 325
- Reaction score
- 3
Texas
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.