"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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An AFC getting chick

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Well, this AFC friend of mine has got a gurl recently. He basically goes for anything and everything (not ugly gurls tho) and falls in love eventually. Now he has got this chick...the last time he talked to her over the phone it was for 2.5 hours. then they set up a date for a movie n he kinda hung-out with her after the movie for another 1 hour or so. Then she drove him home and gave him all sorts of signals that she might stay back at his place. But she eventually cancelled that idea saying that she was "feeling tired". But he hugged her n kissed her on the chick to say goodbye. I *think* he's getting closer to get inside her pants.

He doesn't know a jack-$hit about DJ-ing. My question is why he's getting this chick?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you really think that AFC's can't get chicks? If only DJ could seduce woman, then most of the women were lesbians.

Maybe your just jealous.
 
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Originally posted by Slimijs
Do you really think that AFC's can't get chicks? If only DJ could seduce woman, then most of the women were lesbians.

Maybe your just jealous.
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I am surprised more than anything else.
 
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I could have had a girlfriend while I was an AFC. In high school, a girl asked me out. That never happens anymore and I find it funny that I rejected her, typical AFC move since I had a lust for another girl, but I couldn't even talk to her!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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could be "lucky" could be that she has no one now and this "is the best she can get" - he is still an AFC and even AFCs get chicks.. but they're getting the ones that 1. no one else wants at the time 2. very bored and very single.
 
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Alot of AFC's are happily married (think about that....) ;)
 
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She may not realize he is an AFC. I know alot of guys who act like a Don Juan when they don't like a girl. In turn, the girl eventually has an attraction for them because they were acting like themselves. But, since they rarely ever get girls, they start to like her and start trying to impress her. Overall, they start turning into an AFC. Then the relationship ends within a month. I know this first hand as it happened to me about a year and a half ago.
 
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Hehehehehe...

The mighty DJ getting run over by an AFC. Naw ain't that a real shame?

Well, if he is banging her, or soon will be, it seems he is doing something right, ain' it?

Try to analyze that with that DJ brain of yours.
 
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There no such thing as "happily married " for an AFC.

If women only went for DJs the human race would be dead already. Alas, it is dying slowly due to AFCism.

:D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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well... who said that life is fair?

Anyway, to cheer u up, try to think that DJs get HIGHER QUALITY women... ;)
 
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girls are not only attracted to personality....yea it is the one trait that plays the most important role and the easiest to change. however if the other guy is the biggest *****, but hes still good looking or is popular or has a lot of power and influence over other people (not necessarly on women) then he can still get women anyday....

maybe hes a pvssy but he might still be smart creative, romantic..... who knows.... theres a lot many more ways than playing hard to get, indifferent and being ****y and funny to get a girl.
 
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