"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Amused Mastery

SmooveMooves

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An old topic that's not discussed much anymore but is very important. Being apart of the manosphere and forums like SS, make it easy to over analyze and take things too seriously. We should be approaching game as a way to entertain ourselves.

Say things you find funny. Make observations that crack you up. Use inside jokes that you know only your friends get to have a good time. Forget about how she may feel -- your main goal is fun -- amusery. Never let anything become mundane, trivial or boring. If you're having a good time she will follow your lead.

Amused Mastery is powerful because it illustrates that you have been there and seen it all before. It also reminds you what's important, enjoying what you do. Whether it be going out to see a movie or a walk in the park. It's easy to become analytical. Game should not be a chore. Women are meant for entertainment.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bingo-Player

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If you're having a good time she will follow your lead.
I remember I was in a club before with a freind and Ignition by R.kelly came on

its a favourite of mine because its so sexual and chicks usually love it

I got up from my chair and started dancing really getting into the vibe of the song I think I was even miming the lyrics at one point

within 5 mins two chicks sitting opposite us were up and practically lap dancing us

easy as that
 

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Say things you find funny. Make observations that crack you up. Use inside jokes that you know only your friends get to have a good time.
Some might call this "Be Yourself", which I think is good advice. To me it means to relax, enjoy yourself, and let your real, best personality come through. "Amused Mastery" implies a kind of smugness, the sort of smirking arrogance which can be useful though I don't think it's necessary.
 

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"Amused Mastery" implies a kind of smugness, the sort of smirking arrogance which can be useful though I don't think it's necessary.
When you're being yourself you sort of act like this. Think of a time when you and a group of close buddies were going somewhere you all were familiar with. Your house, one of theirs. How did you act? You didn't even think about it, everything just flowed naturally. Confidence brewed because you were comfortable. I guess I am advocating for a sort of smugness.
 

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I don't know, I think there is a difference between authentic confidence and smugness or arrogance. The latter can admittedly be attractive, but it takes a kind of charisma to pull it off.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bump.

Some of the more recent additions here might enjoy a discussion. I use Amused Mastery all the time in social interactions. It communicates a subcontext of confidence, fun and light heartedness.

And besides...people are hugely entertaining

:)
 

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This clip from Curb Your Enthusiasm perfectly represents amused mastery in my mind...
 
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