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Blue, we are living in a time of deceit - you are part of that deceit!! Look up the definition of deceit - are you proud????
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you read the book, you realize that everybody is playing a game of deceit whether they realize it or not. I have consciously played games, yes, and I can't possibly imagine anybody who has been in a relationship hasn't.
I am responding to the “as you mature…” part of this thread.
When I was younger I relied on, needed guidance. In a very real sense I needed to be told what to do, how to think, hell, how even to BE.
As I have gotten older (I’m not saying “mature”), I gradually began to see the veils fall away, the curtain hiding the “wizard” was pulled back to reveal just a man, who, actually, really was a wizard after all, wasn’t he?
Sources like 48 laws help to pull the veils back. Broadly, any inspirational source does the same.
The danger I see is when people confuse the materials that enlighten them with the true source of enlightenment: themselves.
Many never “mature” out of that need to be told what to do, how to think, and how to BE. They follow a hundred different gurus except the only true one: themselves.
I despise “inspirational quotes” for this reason but do list one from Thoreau:
“I belong to a congregation of which I am the only member”.
For me this means that even while sitting/kneeling in a church/mosque/synagogue/shrine amongst a thousand people, truly, you are the only one present.
When I was younger I relied on, needed guidance. In a very real sense I needed to be told what to do, how to think, hell, how even to BE.
As I have gotten older (I’m not saying “mature”), I gradually began to see the veils fall away, the curtain hiding the “wizard” was pulled back to reveal just a man, who, actually, really was a wizard after all, wasn’t he?
Sources like 48 laws help to pull the veils back. Broadly, any inspirational source does the same.
The danger I see is when people confuse the materials that enlighten them with the true source of enlightenment: themselves.
Many never “mature” out of that need to be told what to do, how to think, and how to BE. They follow a hundred different gurus except the only true one: themselves.
I despise “inspirational quotes” for this reason but do list one from Thoreau:
“I belong to a congregation of which I am the only member”.
For me this means that even while sitting/kneeling in a church/mosque/synagogue/shrine amongst a thousand people, truly, you are the only one present.
Thanks for putting this to words, grinder.grinder said:For me this means that even while sitting/kneeling in a church/mosque/synagogue/shrine amongst a thousand people, truly, you are the only one present.
Hi guys, 1st post.
Welcome to the all-you-can-eat smörgåsbord where choosing which goodies you like is the hardest part.art_manic said:Thanks for putting this to words, grinder.
Hi guys, 1st post.
Dig in.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I am of the belief that you should ALWAYS look out for #1 first, however, MOST of the time the best way to help yourself is to work with others to make a sum that is greater than its parts.
Having been involved in business for the past decade I could write a book about manipulation.
When you have two different "good friends" take you to the cleaners for over $100k EACH, you had BETTER BELIEVE it will change your perspective on the subject.
The house example.....I wouldn't even think twice about someone doing that to me. I see that kind of sh!t on a daily basis.
I've been fukked over pretty much every way you can imagine, but I am still a firm believer in working WITH others rather than against them. You just have to know how to put together a win-win situation and watch your a$$ to ensure that the other party is living up to their side of the bargain. And since I have been robbed so many times I'm at a point where I can more easily spot red flags.
All that stuff aside, I do know that part of being human is about ensuring your own survival, and there is no doubt that some of the stuff I do doesn't equate to a zero sum....one party benefits more than the other. Call it amoral or whatever, but I have no problem with having a bigger piece of the pie than the next person. The way I see it, no one is begrudging a heart surgeon for making $500k per year, so why should they have a problem if I find a way to do the same? Of course society in general might view it differently, but I know better.
Having been involved in business for the past decade I could write a book about manipulation.
When you have two different "good friends" take you to the cleaners for over $100k EACH, you had BETTER BELIEVE it will change your perspective on the subject.
The house example.....I wouldn't even think twice about someone doing that to me. I see that kind of sh!t on a daily basis.
I've been fukked over pretty much every way you can imagine, but I am still a firm believer in working WITH others rather than against them. You just have to know how to put together a win-win situation and watch your a$$ to ensure that the other party is living up to their side of the bargain. And since I have been robbed so many times I'm at a point where I can more easily spot red flags.
All that stuff aside, I do know that part of being human is about ensuring your own survival, and there is no doubt that some of the stuff I do doesn't equate to a zero sum....one party benefits more than the other. Call it amoral or whatever, but I have no problem with having a bigger piece of the pie than the next person. The way I see it, no one is begrudging a heart surgeon for making $500k per year, so why should they have a problem if I find a way to do the same? Of course society in general might view it differently, but I know better.
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The reason why the world is in the distressed state that it is is because of the likes of you bastards - THINK!!!!!! Your thinking only perpetuates your corrupt thinking and thus we have an endless flow of - "shyt on your neighbor" - with this thinking everyone fails - there are no winners!!!!!! WAKE UP, THE MATRIX has you!!!!!!
I worry about the opposite people LMS does; the honest ones playing by the rules being taken advantage of by those that don't. I know real life examples of this; great men that are suffering everyday waiting on God to deliver them from their turmoil. One of them tells me, "I'd rather "mount my treasures in heaven"" and i'm thinking i'm glad to hear that because you sure as h*** ain't mounting them here.
Denial of human nature and the attempt to alter our behavior to make the world "good" will be the downfall of society, not the other way around.Last Man Standing said:The reason why the world is in the distressed state that it is is because of the likes of you bastards - THINK!!!!!! Your thinking only perpetuates your corrupt thinking and thus we have an endless flow of - "shyt on your neighbor" - with this thinking everyone fails - there are no winners!!!!!! WAKE UP, THE MATRIX has you!!!!!!
I always thought it's a great lesson when we learn that The Wizard Of Oz is just a normal man behind a screen, and we don't need a wizard to sort out our needs, the answers are within.grinder said:As I have gotten older (I’m not saying “mature”), I gradually began to see the veils fall away, the curtain hiding the “wizard” was pulled back to reveal just a man, who, actually, really was a wizard after all, wasn’t he?
Except the wicked witch of the west is flying round on a broomstick shooting flying monkeys at everyone, which kinda contradict the premise.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.