englishman
Master Don Juan
PRICK TEASER!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
ActuallyOriginally posted by cactus3178
1). Her 'playing' you is not a function of you guys being friends or not....women do this sh*t when they know your overly interested. It's hardwired into them to behave this way. Don't get me wrong, I don't think she means any harm, but.....
You mentioned that she in particular really 'blows your fuses'....she knows this too. Just try backing off completely on the topic of sex. All the way. Like I said, hang out with her still (you guys are friends), and wait for the inevitable moment when she tries to bait you. Girls love it when men chase, and they love having the power over guys who are over interested (even if it's just for sex).
It will happen, my friend, and when it does, don't bite. Try this for a couple weeks and tell us what happens. Even if you don't believe me, try it as an experiment, you've got nothing to lose anyhow.
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2). I'm way off base, and nothing is going to fix this because she's just not interested in a sexual relationship with you in particular. If this is the case, don't take it personally.
It's one of the two.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.