Anyways this girl I've known for over a year (whom I always suspected liked me as I always caught signs of jealousy when I mention other girls) have been hanging out for the past few months. It was never designated as just 'friends' ...but although we were always very flirty and what not, it was friends i guess. And please no one say "why didn't you ask her out?!" - i didn't have feelings for her originally.
We had kissed before when we had a few drinks, and about a month ago I asked if she wanted to go out as more than friends. She said "I'd honestly love to but..." citing a number of excuses - one being that we work together. Although the excuses weren't made up, and the situation is complicated...i still didn't get a 'yes' (or a no for that matter) on the whole thing. She said she needed time to think about it - but never got back to me. Next day at work she was wondering if i was still coming out with her and some friends - it almost like she was pretending nothing happened. i said no because I didn't want to be just friends. She was completely shocked, and freaked out and totally blew me off.
Very late that nite, I get a call from her (she had been drinking, but was starting to sober up) and she was almost in tears, saying how i hurt her feelings and went on about the reasons why she never said yes or no. I told her that was great and all, but i don't wanna be just friends anymore. She finally admitted she liked me, and she was interested...but still seemed hesitant - she was afraid of losing the friendship, not to mention other factors which made the whole thing far from simple. After we talked about it, we agreed to give it a shot and see where it went.
After a couple arguments, it almost seemed like we reverted back to being friends, tho this was never spoken. Things always seem to be up and down, one minute things are great the next we don't speak for a couple days. She'll text me saying we should hang out, but it's always with her and her friends. If it's gonna be just us two...it's always me that has to intiate everything. Last time it was just the two of us, she was cuddling up against me a lot (she doesn't normally do that with me) but i was too much of a p*ssy to make a move. I just don't know whether I am in the friends zone, or if I am wasting my time or what.
We had kissed before when we had a few drinks, and about a month ago I asked if she wanted to go out as more than friends. She said "I'd honestly love to but..." citing a number of excuses - one being that we work together. Although the excuses weren't made up, and the situation is complicated...i still didn't get a 'yes' (or a no for that matter) on the whole thing. She said she needed time to think about it - but never got back to me. Next day at work she was wondering if i was still coming out with her and some friends - it almost like she was pretending nothing happened. i said no because I didn't want to be just friends. She was completely shocked, and freaked out and totally blew me off.
Very late that nite, I get a call from her (she had been drinking, but was starting to sober up) and she was almost in tears, saying how i hurt her feelings and went on about the reasons why she never said yes or no. I told her that was great and all, but i don't wanna be just friends anymore. She finally admitted she liked me, and she was interested...but still seemed hesitant - she was afraid of losing the friendship, not to mention other factors which made the whole thing far from simple. After we talked about it, we agreed to give it a shot and see where it went.
After a couple arguments, it almost seemed like we reverted back to being friends, tho this was never spoken. Things always seem to be up and down, one minute things are great the next we don't speak for a couple days. She'll text me saying we should hang out, but it's always with her and her friends. If it's gonna be just us two...it's always me that has to intiate everything. Last time it was just the two of us, she was cuddling up against me a lot (she doesn't normally do that with me) but i was too much of a p*ssy to make a move. I just don't know whether I am in the friends zone, or if I am wasting my time or what.