"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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am i wasting my time on campus approaches?

spang

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i will be 32 this friday. getting a little older and it is what it is. theres tons of beautiful 20 year old girls at my university. i approached there for a while but was unsuccessful. i dont know if the rejection was because i was a little older than them or just because of me. there are a few grad students who are older but all those i met were married.
anyway should i forget about campus approaches and go elsewhere looking for older women? i know that we dont give a sh!t about age here but realistically they are too young for me. some are mature and decent and i will approach those types, but to them it may be too much of a gap.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ARrocket

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Try approaching elsewhere. If you results are the same, you'll know that the age difference isn't your problem. If you're successful, build up a base from those girls, use what you learn, and go back to campus and get it done!
 

PlayHer Man

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Put yourself in a 20 year old college girls head. She either wants to party, do drugs, get wasted and hook up with HOT guys... or she is looking to lose her virginity in a serious LTR. At least that's what I experienced in college.

In college most of my action came from parties with lots of drugs/booze and drunk/high girls being drunk/high.

In college most hooking up is from social circles and parties. Cold approaches on campus might make you seem like you have no social circle (or you come off that way) and possibility creep some girls out. Its a shallow and clannish age.
 

BMX

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^ What he said. Try going to the gyms on and off-campus to expand your options as there are probably a good number of chicks around your age too. I remember lifting at 6 a.m. on-campus and the crowd varied more than the daytime crowds and was obviously less crowded. It was a more disciplined group so to speak. The bars in your college town are definitely a great option. They are willing to chat you up regardless of your age and experience, believe it dude. Maybe check the museums and performance venues nearby.
 
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