I know I know, I havent always posted the best news on here, but it seems to me I have always been unrealistic when it comes to the dating game. Ideally, I want to find a quality woman to get married to and start a family with. But obviously, I have to go out there and meet one. I read that article 8 dating myths, and the whole thing about not guys thinking they don't have what it takes or there is something wrong with them, I can relate. It mentions confidence. How do you build the right sort of confidence? I mean, I have been so inactive, I havent even gone out and tried.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Am I unrealistic?
- Thread starter ItsOnNow
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
IMO confidence comes from the high of success. True confidence will happen automatically when you start getting accepted as a fun charismatic guy by the people you approach. So practice and notice the difference.ItsOnNow said:I know I know, I havent always posted the best news on here, but it seems to me I have always been unrealistic when it comes to the dating game. Ideally, I want to find a quality woman to get married to and start a family with. But obviously, I have to go out there and meet one. I read that article 8 dating myths, and the whole thing about not guys thinking they don't have what it takes or there is something wrong with them, I can relate. It mentions confidence. How do you build the right sort of confidence? I mean, I have been so inactive, I havent even gone out and tried.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
Confidence will come when you stop caring so much. If you go out there and worry about every interaction and reaction from a girl you will get nowhere. When you stop worrying you will have more success (at least in your mind anyway).
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
If all your doing is trying to get married you don't need to actually sarge. Just join clubs, have hobbies, and build a regular social circle and the girl will eventually find you and marry you.
Worked for my parents and worked for the baby boomer generation in general. You think all the dads in the world studied pickup and went clubbin every Friday? =)
Worked for my parents and worked for the baby boomer generation in general. You think all the dads in the world studied pickup and went clubbin every Friday? =)
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
ION,
please do yourself a HUGE favor...
...do not go out 'looking for a wife' at 22 years old.
PLEASE, please work on yourself first.
I could elaborate.
But you will do yourself a great service by looking inside and working on yourself.
please do yourself a HUGE favor...
...do not go out 'looking for a wife' at 22 years old.
PLEASE, please work on yourself first.
I could elaborate.
But you will do yourself a great service by looking inside and working on yourself.
Im not exactly looking for a wife. I mean, its hard when you feel alone, and yet people you're age are already married. I mean, that whole thing of finding and being with someone for long enough time.I have been looking inside, dont know if thats helped.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
The matrix wants you to get married in your twenties. Wake up , the Matrix has you!!! Seriously, go out and meet women. Don't look for the "one" or a wife. Yes, you might be jealous of other people having a relationship while you don't. But, don't be!! Most relationships suck.
Have fun in your life man and work on yourself.
Have fun in your life man and work on yourself.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You build confidence by doing what you fear. You face your fears to become desensitized to it. If you're afraid to have conversations with strangers, then you have more conversations to gain confidence in dealing with it. If you're afraid to approach a woman, you go approach women to become desensitized to the fear that you have. Anything that you fear, you face it. You do that which you fear. It's plain and simple.
If you learn something new, but fear it, go do it. Face your fear and look on the good side of it. Look at the positive side of what it will do for you if you face your fear and build confidence.
Your mind is destroying you. You can sit on your computer and read night after night on how to gain confidence, but until you act on it, you will never have it.
If you learn something new, but fear it, go do it. Face your fear and look on the good side of it. Look at the positive side of what it will do for you if you face your fear and build confidence.
Your mind is destroying you. You can sit on your computer and read night after night on how to gain confidence, but until you act on it, you will never have it.
You're right. You pretty much put into words whats been holding me back. I cant get over it. I mean, I realize what I must do, but this time gone bye is whats killing me. I mean, I feel behind as a result of this. I have been spending too much time either on the computer or doing nothing. I am afraid of people I think. I got to get over this.
Do not look for a wife now because people your age are getting married that's foolish. What you should focus on is loving yourself more and stop being so hard on yourself. What your problem is you give people more credit than you give yourself that's why you are afraid of them.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I am right, and there's no two ways about it. Don't worry about what you've done with your time because all the time you've spent on your computer has led you to this moment. You're standing at a fork in the road, and it's time you made a decision about which road you will to take. You can sit at your computer and be scared or you can get out of your shell and face your fears. Once you do, you'll realize that no one likes a guy that cares what they think of him. So, you might as well stop worrying about their thoughts of you.ItsOnNow said:You're right. You pretty much put into words whats been holding me back. I cant get over it. I mean, I realize what I must do, but this time gone bye is whats killing me. I mean, I feel behind as a result of this. I have been spending too much time either on the computer or doing nothing. I am afraid of people I think. I got to get over this.
How do I not care so much? I normally dont care what others think of me. But I suppose I dont give myself enough credit. I mean, I know not to be "the nice guy", but im not the ******* either. Esp like the stuff leykis talks about and his rules and all that.
No need for you to get married. Dont wanna be a d1ck but seems you might be a little needy. Stop that immediately. Even though a lot of people here will disagree, you need to have the mind frame i am better than everyone in some way or another. So be nice to people and social but once they put your ego and esteem in jeporady basically fvck them cause you dont need them and you are better than that. Seriously work on that and you will get respect and confidence faster. I dont try to do that thats just they way I am cause i work on myself alot and buildign up my physical, mental, education and personality qualities. go get some money and buy nice sh1t that should help. My advice goes against the grain but dude I ride on my high horse while the haters are talkin smack cause they can't feel the same way. It took time but I dont regret acting the way I do. Someone like a girl tries to hurt you they cant cause you are riding higher. Its not always good to convey that but just keep it in the back of your head. Start listening to a lot of rap and that should also do the trick
The only way to get rid of the old you is by recognizing that you can not continue your life being that way. You must put all your bad traits in a potato sack and whack it with a shovel until its stops moving. Then throw it down a mountain to a river. Make sure there are crocodiles and piranhas in that river.
What i'm trying to say is you're going to have to take DRASTIC measures if you want to change your life. I'm sure you're tried to improve yourself at least a few times before. Why did it not work? Because you didn't go out there and sacrificed, exhausted, humiliated yourself until you got what you wanted.
What i'm trying to say is you're going to have to take DRASTIC measures if you want to change your life. I'm sure you're tried to improve yourself at least a few times before. Why did it not work? Because you didn't go out there and sacrificed, exhausted, humiliated yourself until you got what you wanted.