"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Am I too proud?

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CharmingBastard

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My situation is this:

I have been in an ltr for over 1.5 years now. We are both members in the same student's union and she is also a member of the executive committee. The union's
anniversary is coming soon, which involves a party where men will be wearing tailcoats, the ladies will wear gowns. We have planned to go there, and I get to sit at the table of honor because of her position(which I don't care a rats ass about anyway...).

So far this is all well and good but I recently found out that she might be expected to escort one of the older honorary members to our table, while the rest of the people stand at the tables until they have seated themselves. The way I see it is that I will have to stand there without my date and girlfriend waiting upon her damn pleasure to arrive there arm in arm with another man. I know it's a tradition and I recognize it as a nice gesture, but on the other hand I see it as a small insult against me and as a slight humiliation. There also an issue about her having to ask the others from the exec. earlier if it is allright if we two can sit together.

Now, I'm a prideful person and It's against my nature to let that kind of an insult pass, even if it is a small insult.
So I told her that I see it as an insult against me and that I will not take it, implying that in worst case I would make a protest by not going there and putting the student's union on my list of enemies. This resulted in a big fight between us where she was accusing me of being jealous and being too proud etc. and me saying stuff like "oh, I'm so ****ing sorry for having a spine".

We made up later but I'm still afraid that this situation might escalate to a point where I will have to dump her.

So anyway, what are your thoughts about this? Did I overreact like my gf said or do I have a healthy amount of "take no ****" attitude?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ya doesent really sound like a big deal doooood. I dont think your too proud, I think your jealous. Lighten up a bit
 
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Lighten the 'F' up -- please!!

You're not being prideful, you're being a CLASSIC AFC.

An AFC doesn't have control over his emotions, an AFC doesn't keep his composure in situations like these, an AFC loses his cool and gets mad at the woman, an AFC shows stupid jealousy over something menial like this.

You're being a big wimp -- sorry to be blunt, but that's what you are.

No. 1 -- No ONE is even going to remember who she escorted and why in this event.

No. 2 -- If they do remember they're going to see it as a formality as part of the ceremony, not some stupid boyfriend-girlfriend thing.

No. 3 -- The name of this website is SOSUAVE not souptight. Relax. You don't sound cool at all.
 
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? whats ur deal

who the **** cares...im sure everyone knows that she's doing it cause of tradition...if not..who the **** cares...id be pissed if we couldnt sit together...and she sat with the guy...but she will be back sitting with you
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lighten up dawg. is this a dj writing this or some overly attached jealous chick, man
 
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No hei! Mitä kuuluu?

Dude, you really have to take the chill pill!

What is the deal here,it is just a eremony and nothing more. See it like acting on a stage. Be professional and REAL confident and GO there AND HAVE FUN.

cheers!
 
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Yeah... You are right about me being uptight. I started thinking more about the whole think and realized how ****ing silly it is. Thanks for the replies.
 
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