"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Machine10033

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I feel like I am a dinosaur... I have never used online dating.... and have no social media. Are there others here that have somehow managed to remain frozen circa 2000?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Kotaix

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My girlfriend is one such dinosaur, it's very refreshing to be with someone who doesn't have any social media and isn't constantly checking her phone.
 

KindredSpiritzz

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I no longer have social media as im disgusted by the misinformation and and rumor spreading it has become. I have however online dated since 2005 or so. Once you jump in you'll figure it out fast enough, aint rocket science.
 

Tilex

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You missed out on the "golden era" of online dating.
Its currently way past it's prime.
I wouldn't even bother with it if I were you.
I completely stopped using social media a decade ago because the quality kept dropping drastically every year.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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jimwho

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Zero social media. I'm old and my kid and friends can be annoying watching them amuse themselves with the phone world. Did Facebook when it was new, a handful of childhood girlfriends found me and it was just too strange and I disappeared. I'm in mid move from Liberal-Land to the Midwest. I put up an Avatar, that's a pic of my new front yard.

I know zero people there accept family. So I signed up on POF, free only and my first time. I'm a bit concerned about 50-60 Midwest images of women. Game plan will have to be different than that fiasco. (no disrespect) but Its kinda spooky. So NO you're not the only low tech Dinosaur.
 

Machine10033

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You missed out on the "golden era" of online dating.
Its currently way past it's prime.
I wouldn't even bother with it if I were you.
I completely stopped using social media a decade ago because the quality kept dropping drastically every year.
trust me... I’m avoiding it all. When it first started people viewed it as odd. I remember people joking it was for losers that couldn’t deal with reality. My cousin met his wife off Match and I remember people joking at the wedding about it..... then online dating became a big thing.
 

Max Baker

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Social media is the main cause of depression. It's why so many women are depressed and miserable because they are addicted to their phone and social media. I deleted my accounts about 2 months ago. Awesome feeling. I still use OLD to spin plates, nothing serious and its how it should be treated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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FuzzX

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I don't use a smartphone, prefer single player games, don't use social media and don't understand what the hell happened. Young people call me grandpa now and give me the side ways glance when I mention I only have a land line. :D
 

Guitar_Whizz

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You're not missing anything. I admire you. I don't use online dating either, and only use social media for marketing my business, but I no longer use it for personal stuff due to previous bad experiences.

If you can do cold approaches in person in 2021 then you're a rare breed of guy and it will make you stand out from other guys in the eyes of women, since so few guys do cold approach these days (pandemic notwithstanding).
 

Glassguy

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You missed out on the "golden era" of online dating.
Its currently way past it's prime.
I wouldn't even bother with it if I were you.
I completely stopped using social media a decade ago because the quality kept dropping drastically every year.
Totally agree. I had a field day on OLD but within 2 years the tables turned on OLD from a hookup site to women attention wh0res. Its trash.

I keep fb because I score a lot of dates and lays from it. I'm not on FB to see pics from little Johnnie's birthday party. I use it primarily to get laid. And it works easily.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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