"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Am I The Only One Who.......

JAZZ IS......

  • Great!

    Votes: 5 55.6%
  • Okay

    Votes: 3 33.3%
  • Boring

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • I hate Jazz

    Votes: 1 11.1%

  • Total voters
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SAYNO

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How many people here listen to Jazz. I'm a pro Jazz musician, been at it for quite a while, but I notice that Jazz seems to be on the decline these days.

I love Dianna krall, Etta James, Nina Simone, Oscar Peterson, Art Tatum, Chic Corea, on and on add infintium.


What about you?

Who are you favorites?


Do you even like Jazz?



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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jazz is ok. What Ive found is that its funner to play jazz than listen to it. Jazz seems like background music for sensual settings, not something I would think about going to a cancert for. Im in our top school choir (about 20 kids) we did some jazz stuff and it was really fun to sing. But I prolly wouldnt listen to it.
 

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Did you vote?

Hey, there are a few young jazz cats out there. I guess it has to grow on you to a bit as well.


Boy you answered this post faster than any post I can remember!



Thanks

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I consider myself a jazz bassist... Although I haven't played jazz with anyone for years, and now I'm into producing hip-hop (heh)...
I always liked the classics: Django, Duke, etc., but I also like the swing era, especially Frank Sinatra and co.
Jazz is great.
 

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I listen to an extremely wide range of musical styles. Jazz is one of the least enjoyed on my list, but I can take it in small doses. I prefer blues and the big band sound (ie Glenn Miller) over jazz. I'm also finding myself enjoying the heavy metal / opera combination (ie Nightwish).

Most genres experience a revival every couple of decades. Brian Setzer did this with rockabilly and swing, and Nightwish is only following in Louise Tucker's footsteps.

I think what Jazz really needs is for someone to take it to the next level. Jazz is one of the few genres that hasn't been resurrected from the dead and put back into the mainstream.

If I'm incorrect and there is/has been something released as of late, please correct me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Desdinova said:
I listen to an extremely wide range of musical styles. Jazz is one of the least enjoyed on my list, but I can take it in small doses. I prefer blues and the big band sound (ie Glenn Miller) over jazz. I'm also finding myself enjoying the heavy metal / opera combination (ie Nightwish).

Most genres experience a revival every couple of decades. Brian Setzer did this with rockabilly and swing, and Nightwish is only following in Louise Tucker's footsteps.

I think what Jazz really needs is for someone to take it to the next level. Jazz is one of the few genres that hasn't been resurrected from the dead and put back into the mainstream.

If I'm incorrect and there is/has been something released as of late, please correct me.

There are some quality jazz-rap bands and producers where I live (the Balkans). Kanye West uses a lot of jazz elements in his production, like Jay-Z's "Encore" and "Lucifer", amongst others.
It's around. You just have to have an ear to recognize it.
Melodic metal bands like Nightwish have been around for awhile. It's actually all I can take when it comes to metal. That and some thrash, a bit of death, and some industrial metal.
I listen to too much music, anyway. (Local radio DJ :yes: )
 

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"Jazz seems like background music for sensual settings, not something I would think about going to a cancert for."

That's funny. I used to feel the same way until I actually took a Jazz course once. The problem is that modern jazz, and the little jazz you might get exposed to by mainstream media, isn't the real thing. Kenny G isn't jazz. Norah Jones isn't jazz.

You want real jazz? Buy some dave Brubeck, some Coleman Hawkins, Coltrane, Charlie 'Bird' Parker, and my all-time favorite jazz personality,

THELONIUS MONK!!!
recommended albums:
best of the blue note
Night hawk - Coleman hawkins
The Birth of the Cool- Miles Davis
Count Basie and Friends
 

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Marlimus said:
"Jazz seems like background music for sensual settings, not something I would think about going to a cancert for."

That's funny. I used to feel the same way until I actually took a Jazz course once. The problem is that modern jazz, and the little jazz you might get exposed to by mainstream media, isn't the real thing. Kenny G isn't jazz. Norah Jones isn't jazz.

You want real jazz? Buy some dave Brubeck, some Coleman Hawkins, Coltrane, Charlie 'Bird' Parker, and my all-time favorite jazz personality,

THELONIUS MONK!!!
recommended albums:
best of the blue note
Night hawk - Coleman hawkins
The Birth of the Cool- Miles Davis
Count Basie and Friends
Excellent post!

There is a world of Jazz out there that is simply unforgetable(no pun intended)!


Has anyone ever listened to Brad Meldhau?? Hes a great jazz pianist!



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