Am i taking a wrong turn here with this hot babe?

[desperado]

There is this girl i have been dating for close to 18 months now, and so far everything has been going smoothly for me because i applied lots of my dj moves on her. She is a 9.8 by the way! Am so sure i would not have gotten her if it were not for the moves.

Now, lately she seems to be spending a lot of time with her friends all of whom are guys, which is cool with me. however one particular guy calls her all the time and sends her text messages, but she said he was only a friend and i believed her. But one day she forgot her phone home and i could not resist the temptation to read her messages, i know, bad move...
She had been texting this dude every single day, and sending stuff like i miss you, and he, sending her kisses. I confronted her about it but she says he is just a friend, i got pissed after reading the messages and told her am not comfortable and i had a strong feeling she was seeing another guy. When she denied i asked her to show me her messages, (the ones i had read). She hesitated but after i pushed her so hard, she did.

The thing is, i feel like she is losing interest in me and finding more fun with this guy, what can i do to push this guy completely out of her life, and avoid this kind of situation coming up again?
Secondly, did I read too much into a message? is "I miss you" a harmless message?

Thanks

 

[scottfall]

Not alot you can do. Its best to move on, you dont have to dump her.. just start talking to other girls. This relationship is done from a trust standpoint.

 

[Trajhenkhet01]

Keep it casual and less available. No need to sweat if its just dating. If she is still down, she'll run back faster than you saying "whats this ****?"

 

[desperado]

Thanks guys. Scottfall, the question of trust is my biggest worry actually. Before this, I never had any suspicions, but now everything she says, i accept with a pinch of salt. Am worried if I look at other options I might become indifferent to her and the relationship dies completely and I dont want that, she is a fun girl to be with. I know this is isnt an easy question but, how do i get that trust back?

 

[Blackstaff]

desperado, focus on what YOU want, not to the girl or what she wants. Do u want sth serious with this girl ? Or do you just want to spend good time and have ur fun ? If it is the latter, you shouldnt put emotion on this matter like this. I see that you really like this girl, otherwise you wouldnt get jealous of the messages and her behaviour. But if you want a LTR and dont want each other to see others, then be direct and tell her that you dont want to handle things like you two do now.

Focus should be on yourself; it's not about losing or gaining back sth... Treat her like any other girl in your life, become less available and most important of all; just take it easy and she will do what she has to do