"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Am I strong enough for bodybuilding?

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What's up guys I'm 17 yrs old and I recently tested my one rep maxes on my prime movers my question is am I strong enough on the basics that I can start doing more bodybuilding type lifting bc right now I'm doing pure strength training. I weigh 170 lbs

Squat (back)- 325
Squat (Front)- 275
Deadlift- 345
Bench- 225
Rows (upright)-95
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It honestly depends on what you're trying to do. If you're trying to put some mass on, I would say that would be a decent starting point.

What type of routine was it? 5/3/1? If you're going to transition to a bodybuilding type routine make sure your form is exceptional and that you are eating correctly for you to get the best gains.
 

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I was doing a 5x5 program for the past 3 months, I'm eating right and I'm well built but id like a little more size
 

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Is this a serious question or are you just fishing for compliments?
 

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Arnold says what working on strength too early in life can ruin your tendons and bones. What's your rush, anyway? Muscles quit meaning much with the advent of reliable rapidfiring firearms.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do you mean professional bodybuilding or you just want to start lifting with more focus on looks as opposed to strength?
 

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Maybe he could be fishing for compliments. Those are average stats for a person that consistently goes to the gym though. Bodybuilding routines are based around diet and form..and some would say "sports technology." lol. Since you say you're trying to put size on...my friend it is all diet. Consume at a caloric surplus.
 

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I've been doing strength trainin for football the past 3 years but now that I'm done I'm not really familiar with body building kind of routines
 

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Body building routines usually consist of a 3 or 4 day body part spit doing sets with reps of 8-12. The one mentioned my PairPlus is a decent one to start with. I'd recommend going to bodybuilding.com and doing research first.

The classic 4 day BBer split is something along the lines of days for chest/tris, legs/abs, back/bis, and shoulder/xx. XX being whichever you please. I follow this split and for my shoulder day I do weighted ab workouts, compared to my leg day i do bodyweight ab workouts.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bgarrido said:
I've been doing strength trainin for football the past 3 years but now that I'm done I'm not really familiar with body building kind of routines
If you been regularly lifting for strength for the past 3 years. I'd say you could go for bodybuilding. Though, your only 17? I bet if you kept up your strength training for another 2-3 years, by the time your 20 you could be up to 200lbs of solid mass. Then, you can start sculpting your mass to a more physique look. Adding shape, porportion, and symmetry.
 
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