Situation: Been w/ my girl for 5 years, were engaged, I've followed the Don Juan principles meaning I try to be unpredictable, only seeing her 2-3 times a week, she does all type of stuff for me like buying me things, cooking, etc. etc...Everythings good but lately I've been feeling like I'm slipping w/ the Don Juan principles....I'm on break from school and she just quit her job....so we both have a lot of free time.....This is the first time since I met her 5 years ago that we have kicked it everyday....In about 2 months she is going to be in a year long program where will only be able to see each other 2 days a week....again...Is it acceptable for a Don Juan to see her throughout week looking at fact that a few months from now our schedules will be crazy and we will only be able to see each other 2 times a week.....I don't know...Am I slipping or what?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Am I slipping or what? Need Help for LTR?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No worries, 5 years is a long time, and engagement is a big deal. You still have to keep working at not being predictable and boring, but it is always going to be that way. If you feel yourself slipping into being the borefriend, take a few days off and regroup. Just don't lose your own identity by spending all of your time with her. Keep up with other friends, hobbies, and interests. If all you know is the relationship, then you get dependent upon it, then you get needy, and things go downhill.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Why are you concerned?
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Like Bible_belt said. Just keep being fun/unpredictable and not boring. Keep the sex life fun and interesting too.