Situation: Been w/ my girl for 5 years, were engaged, I've followed the Don Juan principles meaning I try to be unpredictable, only seeing her 2-3 times a week, she does all type of stuff for me like buying me things, cooking, etc. etc...Everythings good but lately I've been feeling like I'm slipping w/ the Don Juan principles....I'm on break from school and she just quit her job....so we both have a lot of free time.....This is the first time since I met her 5 years ago that we have kicked it everyday....In about 2 months she is going to be in a year long program where will only be able to see each other 2 days a week....again...Is it acceptable for a Don Juan to see her throughout week looking at fact that a few months from now our schedules will be crazy and we will only be able to see each other 2 times a week.....I don't know...Am I slipping or what?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Am I slipping or what? Need Help for LTR?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No worries, 5 years is a long time, and engagement is a big deal. You still have to keep working at not being predictable and boring, but it is always going to be that way. If you feel yourself slipping into being the borefriend, take a few days off and regroup. Just don't lose your own identity by spending all of your time with her. Keep up with other friends, hobbies, and interests. If all you know is the relationship, then you get dependent upon it, then you get needy, and things go downhill.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Why are you concerned?
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Like Bible_belt said. Just keep being fun/unpredictable and not boring. Keep the sex life fun and interesting too.