Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Am I overthinking this?

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Just a wtf moment, but....

Ok, this girl that I'm "seeing" (we always say lets meet up/hangout, nothing of a real date, at the very least we dont use that term anyways).

So we're talking on facebook, and she compliments my photo and such, and then as we're leaving, she deletes all the posts where she talked of my picture.



Am I overthinking when I say I am irked that she deleted those specific comments?

Should I even ask her why she did that or let it just go by? It was only a few posts, btw, but still I can't help but feel irked.

Edit: I feel like I am OTing it, but just need some support/opinions from you guys. (Damn I'm terrible haha)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Damn 30 views and no one wants to throw in an opinion?

I'm a douche I know but come on I feel annoyed by this small situation.

(negative rep me now!)
 

ENIGMA16

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Why would you ask why she did it? It shouldn't matter to you.
 

CarlitosWay

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Who knows why and who gives a fuk rly? Sounds like hav you to much time on your hands...go train in the gym. talk up some other girls. set up another date or two on the side. You sound only like a friend to her or a potential LJBF talk comin up.

If you want action spark reaction. So you need to do something to make her think wow now or you'll just be another guy friend on her face book friends list worrying about every little thing she does.
 

ThatMysteriousGuy

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Game_going_good said:
Damn 30 views and no one wants to throw in an opinion?

I'm a douche I know but come on I feel annoyed by this small situation.

(negative rep me now!)
*spins the official cloe psychic wheel*

Wheel says: "She wants you as a discreet FB. Every girl needs one so go for it and don't tell anyone. Pretend nothing is going on when you're together in public because she'll just deny it and make fun of you in front of everybody."

That took me one minute, you owe me $2.99
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why it matters to me because we were talking about ME AND MY PICS, to which she gave flirty compliments, and as we said good bye she deleted the flirtious compliments.

So I was wondering what the heck, posts them and deletes them as we leave? (She obviously knows I read them but its as if she doesn't want others to read them)
 

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ThatMysteriousGuy said:
*spins the official cloe psychic wheel*

Wheel says: "She wants you as a discreet FB. Every girl needs one so go for it and don't tell anyone. Pretend nothing is going on when you're together in public because she'll just deny it and make fun of you in front of everybody."

That took me one minute, you owe me $2.99
LOLZ, I gotta say.

I think this could verily be the truth. I've never heard of girls posting comments and then pulling them right away, but it's a good trick.

Why don't you ask her? If you're only FB'ing her, it shouldn't really bother you either.

Yeah, ask her. I'm curious to know what the story is.
 

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Ok, she said "there were too many of the compliments".

..Like.. wtf...is that even supposed to mean.

weird Italian girl.


(And I don't just want her as an FB btw)
 

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This is such an epic event I think you should re-think your entire philosophy on life, in fact I think we all should. If she didn't delete her comments, then we all might be continuing down a path of ignorance and violence.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Game_going_good said:
(And I don't just want her as an FB btw)
Agree with other comments here. If you're going to blow such a trivial event out of proportion, you will not get far here.

Quite a few opinions that you should just ignore the fact, but you jumped at the first rec to ask her.

If you want things to develop here, you better change your ways soon...
 

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Lol, everyone wants to be a comedian here.

Whatever, I dropped/will drop the topic about this with her.
 

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classic man. i thought i was an overthinker, and this is something i dont think i'd even worry about.

she wanted to compliment you, but then realised it was in public and didnt want anyone else to see.. so she deleted them
 

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She probs decided it wasn't the right place, should hit her up in MSN over it.
 

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Sounds like a dirty sh*t test type girl-move.

Girls are wired with the ability to manipulate and confuse men, theyre better than us at our own 'game'. Playing hard to get, sh*t tests, doing weird stuff in general to raise doubts, they dont need to read PUA books to learn this stuff.

However its only as bad as you let it get, if you dont care about it then her game is harmless. Once you realize its something stupid and not worth caring about, you pass the test. It might not have been an intentional sh*t test, but the only thing you can do about it is not react.

So, yes you are overthinking, and she probably wanted you to overthink this, so dont react to it at all and its no big deal.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Yeah, it's been past with that topic. I was just kinda irked, and had a wtf moment there and it got the best of me I guess.

Haha.
 
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