"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Am I not taking control of my approaches? But I need a GOAL

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Here's the issue I face. It seems like my success with women comes in random, spontaneous "bursts." For a couple months, I might be banging and dating several different chicks at once, but then when those all fizzle or die out, I'll be stuck in a rut, with no action or dating whatsoever. OR, I'll end up dating/banging only a single chick, like I'm doing now.

As I've just started back up uni again, this just can't fly. There are hundreds and hundreds of women around me all day, but that's the ironical thing...my approaches seem to be SPONTANEOUS. What I mean is this...I can't seem to go out, with the INTENTION of getting a women, and accpmplish it WHEN I FEEL like it.

Sure, I've dated and banged plenty of girls, but the meetings were all just random times I could have never predicted.

Anyone else like this? Any suggestions for getting me back on my feet here, or, even better, on the top of a girl this weekend?

This is a problem that's been plaguing me for the longest while, and I think it ultimately comes down to the fact that the weakest part of my game is in doing totally RANDOM, but INTENTIONAL approaches. I consider the rest of my game to be pretty solid. I've been able to land in a chick's bed just after a first date most of the time (and I'm not that handsome).

So I'm going to set a goal. I'm going to do a TOTALLY random approach in a NEW type of setting each day, from the cafeteria, to the library, to the hallway, to the classroom, etc.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well, that's just one part of the issue though. I've always been into improving myself both physically and mentally.

It seems like what you are suggesting is to completely IGNORE the act of intentionally sarging and instead just "let the girls follow." Sure, that CAN work once in a while, but it seems to be that the next level of being a DJ would be to have TOTAL control of the situation...meaning that you can pick up a girl when and where you want.

What do you think?
 
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