"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Am I not taking control of my approaches? But I need a GOAL

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Here's the issue I face. It seems like my success with women comes in random, spontaneous "bursts." For a couple months, I might be banging and dating several different chicks at once, but then when those all fizzle or die out, I'll be stuck in a rut, with no action or dating whatsoever. OR, I'll end up dating/banging only a single chick, like I'm doing now.

As I've just started back up uni again, this just can't fly. There are hundreds and hundreds of women around me all day, but that's the ironical thing...my approaches seem to be SPONTANEOUS. What I mean is this...I can't seem to go out, with the INTENTION of getting a women, and accpmplish it WHEN I FEEL like it.

Sure, I've dated and banged plenty of girls, but the meetings were all just random times I could have never predicted.

Anyone else like this? Any suggestions for getting me back on my feet here, or, even better, on the top of a girl this weekend?

This is a problem that's been plaguing me for the longest while, and I think it ultimately comes down to the fact that the weakest part of my game is in doing totally RANDOM, but INTENTIONAL approaches. I consider the rest of my game to be pretty solid. I've been able to land in a chick's bed just after a first date most of the time (and I'm not that handsome).

So I'm going to set a goal. I'm going to do a TOTALLY random approach in a NEW type of setting each day, from the cafeteria, to the library, to the hallway, to the classroom, etc.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well, that's just one part of the issue though. I've always been into improving myself both physically and mentally.

It seems like what you are suggesting is to completely IGNORE the act of intentionally sarging and instead just "let the girls follow." Sure, that CAN work once in a while, but it seems to be that the next level of being a DJ would be to have TOTAL control of the situation...meaning that you can pick up a girl when and where you want.

What do you think?
 
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