"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok guys
I was shot down by a 10 last night on myspace. Was teasing her some about her profile. In her profile she claimed to be a former playboy bunny. So I wrote back and said I thought I saw you in the back of the magazine selling condoms and I thought you were a good girl, I was wrong. She wrote back saying I should not judge others, to leave that up to God and that I should look at my own self. Am I being mean by my teasing? I tend to be sarcastic alot. I want to be ****y and funny but I'm just not doing it right. Not quick witted either. Takes time for me to come up with anything really funny. Do not want to be Mr. Nice guy either by complimenting women on everything either.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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There is a slight different of being sarcastic rather than being funny! Your joke was preety much good but to tell it to you friends and laugh about! What about saying that hey if that's true tell me the # of the magazine cause I wanna go straight and buy it! You would be kinda funny and wouldn't make her feel like she felt! You just have to understand the difference between being funny to a girl and being funny among your friends! Try to think before you write to her: will it sound good to her? Though some girls may be funny and wouldn't get angry by something like that most of them are like hey I want only roses in my life !

DonJuanit0 out!!
 
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Trying heavy irony over the internet is like digging your own grave.
Might have worked with a big smile, had you said it to her in person.
 
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Thanks DonJuan. Yes I do need to think more before saying something to women that are sensitive like that.
 
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So true Huffman. I feel it may be best to tease women in person rather than online. There is no body language, physical contact and all in all good vibes when doing something like this online. Would be best to arrange a coffee date if I was to look for someone online and that is it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You're game will and the wit of your responses will get better with more practice. If you have to, used canned stuff until it becomes more natural-it will.

Your comments might have been a little too aggressive for an opener, but don't sweat it. I am pretty good with them when it comes to online stuff, and I have seen far worse. Just keep in mind that no matter how good some are, they will occasionally bomb-whether it's because the girl has no sense of humor, is in a bad mood, or misunderstands your attempt at sarcasm or teasing.

Don't worry about this. The whole benefit of doing that online is that there is an abundant supply of women within instant reach, and it takes very little effort to make an attempt. If it doesn't pan out, dont invest a lot of time thinking about it or trying to turn things around (I will sometimes do ONE more message if it's taken wrong, but no more), just move on.
 
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AJTD said:
Ok guys
I was shot down by a 10 last night on myspace. Was teasing her some about her profile. In her profile she claimed to be a former playboy bunny. So I wrote back and said I thought I saw you in the back of the magazine selling condoms and I thought you were a good girl, I was wrong. She wrote back saying I should not judge others, to leave that up to God and that I should look at my own self. Am I being mean by my teasing? I tend to be sarcastic alot. I want to be ****y and funny but I'm just not doing it right. Not quick witted either. Takes time for me to come up with anything really funny. Do not want to be Mr. Nice guy either by complimenting women on everything either.
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Only self-righteous people say to leave the judging up to God.

Every single day we make judgments. It's impossible not to. If you didn't, you'd be like a flopping fish out of water.
 
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I agree that your comment might have been a little too much because online you can't show her that your teasing, it often just comes across as mean or hateful. However its not the end of the world, don't cry over spilt milk.

This can be avoided by approaching people in real life instead of using the safety of the internet.
 
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