"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok guys
I was shot down by a 10 last night on myspace. Was teasing her some about her profile. In her profile she claimed to be a former playboy bunny. So I wrote back and said I thought I saw you in the back of the magazine selling condoms and I thought you were a good girl, I was wrong. She wrote back saying I should not judge others, to leave that up to God and that I should look at my own self. Am I being mean by my teasing? I tend to be sarcastic alot. I want to be ****y and funny but I'm just not doing it right. Not quick witted either. Takes time for me to come up with anything really funny. Do not want to be Mr. Nice guy either by complimenting women on everything either.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There is a slight different of being sarcastic rather than being funny! Your joke was preety much good but to tell it to you friends and laugh about! What about saying that hey if that's true tell me the # of the magazine cause I wanna go straight and buy it! You would be kinda funny and wouldn't make her feel like she felt! You just have to understand the difference between being funny to a girl and being funny among your friends! Try to think before you write to her: will it sound good to her? Though some girls may be funny and wouldn't get angry by something like that most of them are like hey I want only roses in my life !

DonJuanit0 out!!
 
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Trying heavy irony over the internet is like digging your own grave.
Might have worked with a big smile, had you said it to her in person.
 
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Thanks DonJuan. Yes I do need to think more before saying something to women that are sensitive like that.
 
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So true Huffman. I feel it may be best to tease women in person rather than online. There is no body language, physical contact and all in all good vibes when doing something like this online. Would be best to arrange a coffee date if I was to look for someone online and that is it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You're game will and the wit of your responses will get better with more practice. If you have to, used canned stuff until it becomes more natural-it will.

Your comments might have been a little too aggressive for an opener, but don't sweat it. I am pretty good with them when it comes to online stuff, and I have seen far worse. Just keep in mind that no matter how good some are, they will occasionally bomb-whether it's because the girl has no sense of humor, is in a bad mood, or misunderstands your attempt at sarcasm or teasing.

Don't worry about this. The whole benefit of doing that online is that there is an abundant supply of women within instant reach, and it takes very little effort to make an attempt. If it doesn't pan out, dont invest a lot of time thinking about it or trying to turn things around (I will sometimes do ONE more message if it's taken wrong, but no more), just move on.
 
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AJTD said:
Ok guys
I was shot down by a 10 last night on myspace. Was teasing her some about her profile. In her profile she claimed to be a former playboy bunny. So I wrote back and said I thought I saw you in the back of the magazine selling condoms and I thought you were a good girl, I was wrong. She wrote back saying I should not judge others, to leave that up to God and that I should look at my own self. Am I being mean by my teasing? I tend to be sarcastic alot. I want to be ****y and funny but I'm just not doing it right. Not quick witted either. Takes time for me to come up with anything really funny. Do not want to be Mr. Nice guy either by complimenting women on everything either.
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Only self-righteous people say to leave the judging up to God.

Every single day we make judgments. It's impossible not to. If you didn't, you'd be like a flopping fish out of water.
 
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I agree that your comment might have been a little too much because online you can't show her that your teasing, it often just comes across as mean or hateful. However its not the end of the world, don't cry over spilt milk.

This can be avoided by approaching people in real life instead of using the safety of the internet.
 
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