"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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am i just kidding myself?

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further to my other thread i was at the end of my tether ready to next this young HB so i call her in the afternoon she doesn't pick up. then i leave her an ultimatum text telling her that i'll walk away if she doesn't give me a time to meet up.

no reply. then as an afc i call her about an hour later, she picks up seems rather friendly but is talking on msn at the same time with her friend from abroad so is caught in 2 minds not really paying that much attention to me.

so the convo is very one way. so i say to her 'so what you up to tonight?' then afc: 'what you doing tomorrow?' she's got 2 parties to go to..then the icing on the cake: 'so when do i get to see you again?'

god i didn't know what to say without sounding nervous. she goes 'i'm really sorry blah blah (i couldn't hear what she was saying) but we can meet beginning of next week say monday.'

then silence as she continues to type to her friend from abroad. so i go ok i'll see you monday then.

am i just kidding myself? she's just gona flake isn't she?

god i hate being in this desperate situation.. even if i call her sunday and ask what time i'll pick her up the next day she may/may not reply.

i feel like i'm doing too much chasing esp for someone who is so young. should i just walk away/flake on her?

i know that when i'm with these girls i can make them highly interested but when the circumstances are like this i just dont seem to be able to do the right thing. i feel that if i do text her asking what time i'll pick her up the next day she'll just not reply. should i cancel on her just to not show my already pretty obvious neediness?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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drift king said:
further to my other thread i was at the end of my tether ready to next this young HB so i call her in the afternoon she doesn't pick up. then i leave her an ultimatum text telling her that i'll walk away if she doesn't give me a time to meet up.

no reply. then as an afc i call her about an hour later, she picks up seems rather friendly but is talking on msn at the same time with her friend from abroad so is caught in 2 minds not really paying that much attention to me.

so the convo is very one way. so i say to her 'so what you up to tonight?' then afc: 'what you doing tomorrow?' she's got 2 parties to go to..then the icing on the cake: 'so when do i get to see you again?'

god i didn't know what to say without sounding nervous. she goes 'i'm really sorry blah blah (i couldn't hear what she was saying) but we can meet beginning of next week say monday.'

then silence as she continues to type to her friend from abroad. so i go ok i'll see you monday then.

am i just kidding myself? she's just gona flake isn't she?

god i hate being in this desperate situation.. even if i call her sunday and ask what time i'll pick her up the next day she may/may not reply.

i feel like i'm doing too much chasing esp for someone who is so young. should i just walk away/flake on her?

i know that when i'm with these girls i can make them highly interested but when the circumstances are like this i just dont seem to be able to do the right thing. i feel that if i do text her asking what time i'll pick her up the next day she'll just not reply. should i cancel on her just to not show my already pretty obvious neediness?

You've lost this round. Move on.

Ultimatium = helplessness, no other options.

You already know what to do. Delete all contact info and move on. She's really not interested anymore. She's seen all the crazy come out too quickly and she's gonna flake.

Go meet 10 women today. Now. Go outside, to the bookstore, to the mall, to dinner. And speak to 10 women today. Just to remind yourself there are more women in the world.

Good luck.
 

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i think i got complacent. i had 3 and cos it took so much effort to secure these 3 and they went well i thought i could sit back and relax.

i feel that all i'm doing is giving her an ego boost cos i'm so much older than her. i did so well on our 2nd date i almost feel embarrassed that i'm practically begging to meet up with her again. are you saying that when the moment comes to meet up monday chances are she'll flake?

it's so weird if she hadn't flaked yesterday things would be so different. i'm so ashamed of myself but i know that if i can get her out i can get her into bed (assuming i don't have anxiety issues about everything i've done this week) man she probably will just meet up for pity sake or just to tell her friends that she's with a 24 year old.. i'm so disgusted with myself, but i got no options and outlook is bleak.
 
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