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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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am i just kidding myself?

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further to my other thread i was at the end of my tether ready to next this young HB so i call her in the afternoon she doesn't pick up. then i leave her an ultimatum text telling her that i'll walk away if she doesn't give me a time to meet up.

no reply. then as an afc i call her about an hour later, she picks up seems rather friendly but is talking on msn at the same time with her friend from abroad so is caught in 2 minds not really paying that much attention to me.

so the convo is very one way. so i say to her 'so what you up to tonight?' then afc: 'what you doing tomorrow?' she's got 2 parties to go to..then the icing on the cake: 'so when do i get to see you again?'

god i didn't know what to say without sounding nervous. she goes 'i'm really sorry blah blah (i couldn't hear what she was saying) but we can meet beginning of next week say monday.'

then silence as she continues to type to her friend from abroad. so i go ok i'll see you monday then.

am i just kidding myself? she's just gona flake isn't she?

god i hate being in this desperate situation.. even if i call her sunday and ask what time i'll pick her up the next day she may/may not reply.

i feel like i'm doing too much chasing esp for someone who is so young. should i just walk away/flake on her?

i know that when i'm with these girls i can make them highly interested but when the circumstances are like this i just dont seem to be able to do the right thing. i feel that if i do text her asking what time i'll pick her up the next day she'll just not reply. should i cancel on her just to not show my already pretty obvious neediness?
 

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drift king said:
further to my other thread i was at the end of my tether ready to next this young HB so i call her in the afternoon she doesn't pick up. then i leave her an ultimatum text telling her that i'll walk away if she doesn't give me a time to meet up.

no reply. then as an afc i call her about an hour later, she picks up seems rather friendly but is talking on msn at the same time with her friend from abroad so is caught in 2 minds not really paying that much attention to me.

so the convo is very one way. so i say to her 'so what you up to tonight?' then afc: 'what you doing tomorrow?' she's got 2 parties to go to..then the icing on the cake: 'so when do i get to see you again?'

god i didn't know what to say without sounding nervous. she goes 'i'm really sorry blah blah (i couldn't hear what she was saying) but we can meet beginning of next week say monday.'

then silence as she continues to type to her friend from abroad. so i go ok i'll see you monday then.

am i just kidding myself? she's just gona flake isn't she?

god i hate being in this desperate situation.. even if i call her sunday and ask what time i'll pick her up the next day she may/may not reply.

i feel like i'm doing too much chasing esp for someone who is so young. should i just walk away/flake on her?

i know that when i'm with these girls i can make them highly interested but when the circumstances are like this i just dont seem to be able to do the right thing. i feel that if i do text her asking what time i'll pick her up the next day she'll just not reply. should i cancel on her just to not show my already pretty obvious neediness?

You've lost this round. Move on.

Ultimatium = helplessness, no other options.

You already know what to do. Delete all contact info and move on. She's really not interested anymore. She's seen all the crazy come out too quickly and she's gonna flake.

Go meet 10 women today. Now. Go outside, to the bookstore, to the mall, to dinner. And speak to 10 women today. Just to remind yourself there are more women in the world.

Good luck.
 

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i think i got complacent. i had 3 and cos it took so much effort to secure these 3 and they went well i thought i could sit back and relax.

i feel that all i'm doing is giving her an ego boost cos i'm so much older than her. i did so well on our 2nd date i almost feel embarrassed that i'm practically begging to meet up with her again. are you saying that when the moment comes to meet up monday chances are she'll flake?

it's so weird if she hadn't flaked yesterday things would be so different. i'm so ashamed of myself but i know that if i can get her out i can get her into bed (assuming i don't have anxiety issues about everything i've done this week) man she probably will just meet up for pity sake or just to tell her friends that she's with a 24 year old.. i'm so disgusted with myself, but i got no options and outlook is bleak.
 
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