"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Am i feeling insecure/overthinking?

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Met this new girl, long distance. We talk an hour daily, on facebook and texting.

I don't see any sign of disinterest (IOD - indication of disinterest) from this girl but still when ever I read our chat, and text messages, there's always a gut feeling that I'm making her bored.

To make it more clear as possible. It's always like I kind of feels dizzy and tired while talking to her, and same feeling I get while re-reading my conversations with her so as a result of this, I mostly fail's to entertain her and flirt properly as I've to go through such a hard time even thinking about what to prevent her from getting bored or disinterested with all the BS I may talk about.

Is there a chance that she feel's the same tiredness/dizziness while talking to me? Or it's just my own gut feeling?

Have anyone ever been through this?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Greasy Pig

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OP, if this is the same bytch you've been losing your mind over and writing about for the past few weeks, I'll fvcking scream.

And if it isn't, why are you persisting with meeting chicks that aren't even in your town?
 

JoeMarron

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There's so much wrong with this that trying to give you advice is pointless. Read the bible. That is all.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lamobatsman

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No hes a differnt OP Greasy Pig. But yes im curious send us some of your conversation for us to analyse
 

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ialphamaster said:
Met this new girl, long distance. We talk an hour daily, on facebook and texting.
See what I put in bold? That is your problem and that is why you are an AFC in this situation.

Why on earth are you acting like one of her girlfriends? Let me guess what she talks to you about.. her problems, her annoying friends, how there are no "nice guys" left?

Hmmmm....

A high value man has no time to be talking with a chick he is not sleeping with for an hour DAILY. Even in my most AFC days I never did that sh!t :crackup:

Read the DJ Bible please.
 

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ialphamaster said:
Met this new girl, long distance. We talk an hour daily, on facebook and texting.
I stopped reading after that...

Advice: NEXT her immediately and go no contact. Then open your door, walk into the real world and find a girl that you can actually touch and see.

Good luck.
 

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You say you feel like your making her bored while texting her, then you more than likely are, I feel like I'm making a girl excited while texting her, stop caring if she is bored or is interested in you, it will kill your chances.

My way of going about things is to act like she likes you, believe that she does, quit the texting and go out somewhere with her, if you keep thinking of yourself as boring then you are gonna stay boring, as for indicator of interest, I don't care too much for them, just make a move and see how it goes.

And if she doesn't like you then fvck it

To be honest If I relied on IOI's or IOD's over making a move then I'd have a lot less success

Listen to and apply the advice everyone has given you

JoeMarron said:
Read the bible. That is all.
PlayHer Man said:
Read the DJ Bible please.
Listen to them, Read it http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mr. Bond

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Jesus, I read the thread title without reading any more I already knew that the answer was yes. If you have you ask "am I being insecure and overthinking?" the answer is yes.

Also:

Long distance doesn't work.
Talking with a girl for hours doesn't work.
Caring about what she thinks of you doesn't work.
She does not get that same feeling you get. She gets bored.
 
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