"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Am I falling in love?Help!

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frank05

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I've always been very successful with girls. In the past I have been dating many girls at once, with good success. The problem is that although I was pleased getting to know many girls and dating them, I have always felt a bit lonely with them. I kind of didn't feel too much connected to any of them.
Lately I've been dating another girl, and she's kind of different. I feel very connected to her, and she feels very connected to me.
It's not that I'm starting to act like an AFC. It's the contrary. She makes me try to improve myself every day and become more and more challenging and confident.
When I see her it's like a see a part of me that have always been missing and I suddenly feel complete and extremly happy.
I always tailor to different girls, but I've stopped dating them now because I find them boring and stupid.
I don't know exactly what is going on in my head. I think I'm falling in love or something like that and I don't know what to do.
I'm somewhat scared that I could get one-itis or get destroyed when our relationship breaks up.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Guys are getting LOVE and INFATUATION mixed up.

Falling in love doesn't mean that you are an AFC. Its good that this woman makes you want to better yourself. That's what a good woman should make you feel. Loving a person is natural and should enjoyed and not feared.

However, the thin line of INFATUATION happens when you begin to obsess about her. Obsess about how great she is, how you pedistal her, how you can't picture yourself without her and how you would be crushed if she cheated on you. Yes, you've dated a ton of women...fine ones, short ones, gold diggers, idiots...yet, this current girlfriend is your pedistal.

If these are the feelings you have, then bro, you are truely not secure with yourself. It seems like you are stating the fact that you've dated tons of girls to validate yourself, ie, I'm confident because I've dated tons of women. If you are confident in yourself, then that confidence shouldn't make you worry if you guys break up.

You need to stop worrying about what may happen when you lose her..and start focusing on having fun and enjoying her company now.

Sure, you have a great thing now and don't want to go back dating stupid, golddigging type girls of the past (yea yea..I've been there MANY times myself :p ). But, you shouldn't be afraid to lose her. It may not seem like there are quality women out there..but there are..
 
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DAMN... This is kinda like the thing i got goin' on for me right now...
If you read my post in the HIGHSCHOOL forum...
I cant really give you any advice though... cause i'm takin' it ( lol)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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