Been with a 30 yr old for a year now. I'm mid 20's and she's 30. So we're 4 or 5 yr apart.
we both care n love each other. The problems are...
-I have lost every job I had due to my medical problems and now I'm jobless and havent even finish school.
-She has a job but not even GED. We have talked and she said she's planning on getting her ged sometimes in march or this year.
But even then, after she got her ged and i got a job and finish school, I feel like my youth as a man is gone because I'll be 35 and she'll be 40 something. The sex and the intimacy will be gone as well. I'm not familiar with dating older women, thought somehow here could shed some light.
Not long ago, I did talk to her about marrying her and have kids together once we all financially stabled but I just don't see that happening for atleast 1 or 2 years from now. Not to mention by the time I have a stable job and got my act together, she'll be 36 or 37 and might not be able to have kids. Maybe she'll be able to but dam i feel i'm f*cking up her future and mine if we stay together.
I realized all of the things i typed and told her about it this morning, she started crying but denied it when i asked if she was crying. She later txted me saying I should leave her because she said i'm right and that i will still be young when she's in her 40's and i'll need a younger girl to keep me happy and satisfied...
I feel that if i leave I will hurt her, but if I don't leave, I will hurt us both... I don't know what I should do.
P.S I feel like I should join the macking on HBs bandwagon like the rest of people on here and dont jump into the relationship circle so soon. I guess every time I found someone new I can't seem to do it cuz it'll hurt them, because all the ones that are with me genuinely like me..
we both care n love each other. The problems are...
-I have lost every job I had due to my medical problems and now I'm jobless and havent even finish school.
-She has a job but not even GED. We have talked and she said she's planning on getting her ged sometimes in march or this year.
But even then, after she got her ged and i got a job and finish school, I feel like my youth as a man is gone because I'll be 35 and she'll be 40 something. The sex and the intimacy will be gone as well. I'm not familiar with dating older women, thought somehow here could shed some light.
Not long ago, I did talk to her about marrying her and have kids together once we all financially stabled but I just don't see that happening for atleast 1 or 2 years from now. Not to mention by the time I have a stable job and got my act together, she'll be 36 or 37 and might not be able to have kids. Maybe she'll be able to but dam i feel i'm f*cking up her future and mine if we stay together.
I realized all of the things i typed and told her about it this morning, she started crying but denied it when i asked if she was crying. She later txted me saying I should leave her because she said i'm right and that i will still be young when she's in her 40's and i'll need a younger girl to keep me happy and satisfied...
I feel that if i leave I will hurt her, but if I don't leave, I will hurt us both... I don't know what I should do.
P.S I feel like I should join the macking on HBs bandwagon like the rest of people on here and dont jump into the relationship circle so soon. I guess every time I found someone new I can't seem to do it cuz it'll hurt them, because all the ones that are with me genuinely like me..