"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I talked to a girl on Sunday and told her we would hang out sometime this week, probably Wednesday.

I proceeded to call her on Wednesday around 12:00 noon,and I left her a message saying. "Hi this is _ _ _ _ _ _, Just calling to see if we are gonna hang out today, If you want to do something, give me a call"

She text messaged me at 3:00 saying, today is not looking good, she is still at work and then asked me what other days I was free.

I texted her back about 20 minutes later saying "Don't work to hard. Mon,Tues, and Thursdays I am usually free"

She never responded to my text, or called me and it has been a full day since that.
Did I do anything wrong? I am really trying to work very hard to improving myself.

Should I respond back to her in two days saying something like "OK, you waited the traditional two days before calling, it's ok to respond"

I know someone is gonna tell me, just forget about her and move on but, my problem is that is all I have been doing time and time again.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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she text and said she couldn't make it, and asked about another day to reshedule, she does sound interested.

You could have probably told her a specific day that you could have gone out, instead of saying which days you were free, rather than giving her the options to what day ya'll can hook up.
 
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Beginner,

I suggest that next time you get in touch with her, set an absolute date. Do not put the ball in her court. Last time I checked, it was the male who had balls.
 
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just sit back let her call you, girls like to chase they want a challenge espically in the beginning cause when they get you it will make them feel better and they are competitive by nature. If she likes you this won't fail trust me. let her make the suggestions and when do go something at first act like you dont care cause right now you are acting like you care a lot
 
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Basically what everyone else said minus what the last guy said about letting her make the suggestions. That's the last thing you'd want to do, and most likely the reason she hasn't been too quick on getting back to you...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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