"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Am I being used?

guitaronfire411

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2005
Messages
283
Reaction score
3
Location
--
So I've been talking to this girl and kinoed her breasts, but haven't received any proper sexual favours in the last month or so that I've been with her. She's only a 6.5 or so but I like her personality and we flirt easily. Lately though, it seems like she's getting too possessive or controlling.

We were talking about seeing a hockey game and this is the e-mail she sent me tonight, when I asked for her to phone me on Friday:

Subject: Hockey Game

Hey
My sister said she would drive us. I was wondering if you can pay for the tickets and I will give you money for them... cuz I don't have a credit card.

So it will be me, you, my friend "Jen", my sister "M", and her boyfriend "B". So I guess. 5 tickets thanks.

I tried calling you today but no answer. So I guess so its good.
My sister said she can pick us up at 5pm because she wants to get there a head of time.

We can pick up food while we are there. Email me back and tell me if it is okay with you buying the tickets ahead of time.
See you on Sat evening. Bye
So I am feeling used like her puppet here. Should I go ahead and get the tickets or tell her my $0.02?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

thedeparted

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 7, 2007
Messages
428
Reaction score
29
Neither. Option C. Zen option. Do nothing. Wait.

See, there are red flags all over the place. First, you said call, not email. Second, she's leading not you. Third, she's got her whole damm family coming which is not a date. Four, she said "thanks" like she assumed you'd do it. Fifth, even my cat can get a credit card.

So I'd just not reply at all. Wait for her to call and play it like you never got the email. Don't waste your time lecturing her about anything. Just lead her in the direction you want to go and see if she goes there. If you get the feeling she's using you, she probably is, in which case you just say that it turns out you can't make it that night.

P.S. While a lot of guys would just say "NEXT" they are missing an opportunity. If you take charge of an alpha bltch like this in a calm cool collected way and make her do what you want it will really get her turned on. She'll respect you more and want to fvck you. So it's worth playing through the green, so to speak.
 

guitaronfire411

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2005
Messages
283
Reaction score
3
Location
--
Thanks. I've been doing a good job with this girl but lately run a lot of bad luck (for a lack of a better word) in my life, which has disrupted my cool vibe. Notably, the transit strike.

Yesterday she wanted to come over and make cookies for me. I was thinking of suggesting we can buy the tickets there instead when she does get back to me.
 

Jitterbug

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2008
Messages
3,197
Reaction score
140
Way way too early to meet her friends & family. Even if this ticket situation didn't come up, I wouldn't go.

The part about "kinoed her breasts": ROFL!!!
 

Andy_Dufresne

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 18, 2008
Messages
222
Reaction score
10
Location
NorthEast
guitaronfire411 said:
So I am feeling used like her puppet here.
Yup.

Call the shots, especially if you are thinking of advancing $$$ for all of her family and friends, which is not the brightest idea either. It should be just the two of you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

jophil28

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 18, 2006
Messages
5,216
Reaction score
278
Location
Gold Coast. Aust.
guitaronfire411 said:
So I am feeling used like her puppet here. Should I go ahead and get the tickets or tell her my $0.02?
The tone and content of her email indicates a controlling attitute with a high sense of entitlement. She appears to be 'asking' you to agree to several things, but her style says otherwise . She EXPECTS you to agree with no resistance..... she is really giving you sugar coated orders.

What to do ? Do Nothing . Go see a movie alone instead. "Talking it out" with women like this is futile - take it from me.
 
Top