recently, i've had some girls disrespect me. what i've done is just ignore them. it seems like they've taken to either ignoring me back (which is fine), but what's annoying me is they're flirting with other people in front of me. i don't know, but it seems like they're intentionally doing it to get back at me or something. it's annoying as phuck b/c i couldn't care less who they get with. it's like studying, & people sitting beside you are talking nonstop at the library kind of annoying.
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am i being **** tested or am i overthinking?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Your post indicates otherwise.konmai said:
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If people are disrespecting you then you need to figure out if there is some validity to their perception of you. Why do you think they're disrespecting you?
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The girl is either a tease or an attention *****. Both are bad by the way.
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Realize you have higher value. Treat it as if she was a child. Just don't care, and the way you dont care is focus on something else. Ignore.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
To be honest...I wouldn't go with the ignoring route.
Ignoring her is a decent option...it definitely beats getting butthurt and crying in front of everyone.
However, if you make fun of her back in a "I know I'm better than you" mentality, you will undoubtedly dominate the situation (assuming you are actually good with words and are actually nonchalant while doing so).
They're basically bullying you right now because you won't stick up for yourself. Ignoring them is too passive aggressive. They don't give two sh!ts if you just ignore their teasing and bantering because they immediately go on to flirt with the nearby hot guy at the party.
Ignoring her is a decent option...it definitely beats getting butthurt and crying in front of everyone.
However, if you make fun of her back in a "I know I'm better than you" mentality, you will undoubtedly dominate the situation (assuming you are actually good with words and are actually nonchalant while doing so).
They're basically bullying you right now because you won't stick up for yourself. Ignoring them is too passive aggressive. They don't give two sh!ts if you just ignore their teasing and bantering because they immediately go on to flirt with the nearby hot guy at the party.