"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Am I being afc here, do you ever ask questions?

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I've had a long distance relationship with a girl, started hot and heavy but has cooled off a bit.... Lately we don't communicate nearly as much as we used to.

Couple of days ago we were discussing her taking a trip up her to see me. I was talking with her about the trip, and the communication kinda died off for two days.... She contacts me today to see how I was doing... We exchange a few texts. I then ask her hey, if you didn't want to visit just let me know, I haven't talk to you since we discussed the trip. She responds with,"so thAt means I don't want to go? I'm like yeah kinda....

Am I afc to ask what's going on?? Or should I ignore, this type of behavior, and just be aloof every time she calls??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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concentrate on the times she is with you not the times inbetween!

dudes are too fixated on messages and texts and calls, they demand all this attention inbetween, but why?

shes coming to see you isnt she? why do you need a bunch of texts inbetween? are you frightened she'll forget who you are before she comes?

nothing is going on! honestly, this demanding for constant everyday contact like this is what grinds things down, obligates people, and sucks the fun out of everything

and why on earth would you be aloof to someone who is coming to visit? because they can't keep up this relentless pace of pointless texting? really?

try being normal instead, turn your damn phone off, stop looking for endless texts, and enjoy her visit like a normal person!
 
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It's not AFC. LDR's are tough enough and are doomed to fail if you do not openly discuss when you will see eachother again.
 
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mahoney said:
concentrate on the times she is with you not the times inbetween!

dudes are too fixated on messages and texts and calls, they demand all this attention inbetween, but why?

shes coming to see you isnt she? why do you need a bunch of texts inbetween? are you frightened she'll forget who you are before she comes?

nothing is going on! honestly, this demanding for constant everyday contact like this is what grinds things down, obligates people, and sucks the fun out of everything

and why on earth would you be aloof to someone who is coming to visit? because they can't keep up this relentless pace of pointless texting? really?

try being normal instead, turn your damn phone off, stop looking for endless texts, and enjoy her visit like a normal person!
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Thanks for the response... The trip has still not been scheduled... And I'm guessing I shouldn't mention it anymore... we spoke today and she says she is really stressed out thats why we haven't talked as much blah blah blah....
 
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They don't stop calling so they can spend more time alone. When you sense a change in their behavior - go NC. They will come back if they don't want to lose you.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Seriously, don't trip out. If she wants to visit, whatever... let the ***** come.

All you should be doing is telling her that you're free on this, this and that day.

What more is there to discuss? Leave it be.
 
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