"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Am I being afc here, do you ever ask questions?

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I've had a long distance relationship with a girl, started hot and heavy but has cooled off a bit.... Lately we don't communicate nearly as much as we used to.

Couple of days ago we were discussing her taking a trip up her to see me. I was talking with her about the trip, and the communication kinda died off for two days.... She contacts me today to see how I was doing... We exchange a few texts. I then ask her hey, if you didn't want to visit just let me know, I haven't talk to you since we discussed the trip. She responds with,"so thAt means I don't want to go? I'm like yeah kinda....

Am I afc to ask what's going on?? Or should I ignore, this type of behavior, and just be aloof every time she calls??
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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concentrate on the times she is with you not the times inbetween!

dudes are too fixated on messages and texts and calls, they demand all this attention inbetween, but why?

shes coming to see you isnt she? why do you need a bunch of texts inbetween? are you frightened she'll forget who you are before she comes?

nothing is going on! honestly, this demanding for constant everyday contact like this is what grinds things down, obligates people, and sucks the fun out of everything

and why on earth would you be aloof to someone who is coming to visit? because they can't keep up this relentless pace of pointless texting? really?

try being normal instead, turn your damn phone off, stop looking for endless texts, and enjoy her visit like a normal person!
 
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It's not AFC. LDR's are tough enough and are doomed to fail if you do not openly discuss when you will see eachother again.
 
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mahoney said:
concentrate on the times she is with you not the times inbetween!

dudes are too fixated on messages and texts and calls, they demand all this attention inbetween, but why?

shes coming to see you isnt she? why do you need a bunch of texts inbetween? are you frightened she'll forget who you are before she comes?

nothing is going on! honestly, this demanding for constant everyday contact like this is what grinds things down, obligates people, and sucks the fun out of everything

and why on earth would you be aloof to someone who is coming to visit? because they can't keep up this relentless pace of pointless texting? really?

try being normal instead, turn your damn phone off, stop looking for endless texts, and enjoy her visit like a normal person!
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Thanks for the response... The trip has still not been scheduled... And I'm guessing I shouldn't mention it anymore... we spoke today and she says she is really stressed out thats why we haven't talked as much blah blah blah....
 
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They don't stop calling so they can spend more time alone. When you sense a change in their behavior - go NC. They will come back if they don't want to lose you.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Seriously, don't trip out. If she wants to visit, whatever... let the ***** come.

All you should be doing is telling her that you're free on this, this and that day.

What more is there to discuss? Leave it be.
 
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