"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Am I being afc here, do you ever ask questions?

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I've had a long distance relationship with a girl, started hot and heavy but has cooled off a bit.... Lately we don't communicate nearly as much as we used to.

Couple of days ago we were discussing her taking a trip up her to see me. I was talking with her about the trip, and the communication kinda died off for two days.... She contacts me today to see how I was doing... We exchange a few texts. I then ask her hey, if you didn't want to visit just let me know, I haven't talk to you since we discussed the trip. She responds with,"so thAt means I don't want to go? I'm like yeah kinda....

Am I afc to ask what's going on?? Or should I ignore, this type of behavior, and just be aloof every time she calls??
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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concentrate on the times she is with you not the times inbetween!

dudes are too fixated on messages and texts and calls, they demand all this attention inbetween, but why?

shes coming to see you isnt she? why do you need a bunch of texts inbetween? are you frightened she'll forget who you are before she comes?

nothing is going on! honestly, this demanding for constant everyday contact like this is what grinds things down, obligates people, and sucks the fun out of everything

and why on earth would you be aloof to someone who is coming to visit? because they can't keep up this relentless pace of pointless texting? really?

try being normal instead, turn your damn phone off, stop looking for endless texts, and enjoy her visit like a normal person!
 
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It's not AFC. LDR's are tough enough and are doomed to fail if you do not openly discuss when you will see eachother again.
 
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mahoney said:
concentrate on the times she is with you not the times inbetween!

dudes are too fixated on messages and texts and calls, they demand all this attention inbetween, but why?

shes coming to see you isnt she? why do you need a bunch of texts inbetween? are you frightened she'll forget who you are before she comes?

nothing is going on! honestly, this demanding for constant everyday contact like this is what grinds things down, obligates people, and sucks the fun out of everything

and why on earth would you be aloof to someone who is coming to visit? because they can't keep up this relentless pace of pointless texting? really?

try being normal instead, turn your damn phone off, stop looking for endless texts, and enjoy her visit like a normal person!
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Thanks for the response... The trip has still not been scheduled... And I'm guessing I shouldn't mention it anymore... we spoke today and she says she is really stressed out thats why we haven't talked as much blah blah blah....
 
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They don't stop calling so they can spend more time alone. When you sense a change in their behavior - go NC. They will come back if they don't want to lose you.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Seriously, don't trip out. If she wants to visit, whatever... let the ***** come.

All you should be doing is telling her that you're free on this, this and that day.

What more is there to discuss? Leave it be.
 
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