"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm mulling over asking a female client of mine how she's feeling. I have her cash in my wallet for a service only half delivered so far. It feels like a customer service deficiency to keep ignoring her. She said she was sick so I joked about calling the morgue and told her to drop me a line when she's ready to continue. That was yesterday morning.

Should I quit being a blue pill worrier and keep ignoring her? She's given me no IOIs and there's nothing unprofessional going down between us. But I do feel like a dîck ignoring a supposedly sick client who's already paid me. If she were a dude, I'd have stayed in contact.

She's pleasant and gracious, but I checked her FB and she has 4600 friends, about 1200 followers and gets 300+ likes on her pictures. Yikes!

I guess I should keep ignoring her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That's a very helpful reply you gave there :)

Am I being a dîck or not?
 

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mate id sex a girl in a warehouse, id never take advantage of a client, plus shes an attention *****, she thinks shes socially dominant( she will start negotiating after sex, like shes a high value young Megan fox).....she never clocks these men dont say hello to her in the street
 
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