"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Am i an idiot?

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I like a girl from my literature class, HB6. At some point in the semester she was sitting next to me but we never talked. I tried to force some smalltalk but that ended up awkward. Towards the middle of the semester she began sitting on the opposite side of the class with her girl-friends. I don't see her around campus much outside of this class (different majors) so I didn't have chance to really talk to her about anything. I'd sit next to her but I don't want to alienate my friend (yea lame excuse). Today i noticed a guy who's sits nearby start talking to her. Now I feel like a complete idiot. I kind of know this guy, he's a complete wanker (worked on a project closely with him), so it pisses me off that he got more courage to talk to her. I guess my question is how can I make myself feel better in this situation? I reckon I could begin some empty smalltalk with her randomly after class and invite her out for a coffee. I don't got one-itis on this one but I want to get into the game. Please slap me around and whatnot, i deserve it, the DJ wanna be that I am.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Okay...try this one on for size.

BE THE HERO! Rescue her from the "wanker". Ask if you can borrow notes from class, discuss the reading list...ANYTHING! Go talk to her before the punk-guy takes her out or worse yet...gets a KISS from YOUR girl!!!!!!!!!:p

Are you going to sit there and let it happen? You KNOW she'll be happier with you! Go get her!























Why are you still here? GO!
 
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I think you mentioned in your last thread that you had problems approaching a chica and asking her out. Are you going to be like this your whole life? Enough already, and ask her if you can carry her books, or ask her if she would like some candy or something!
 

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I have previously approached chicks in my workplace. I work in a computer lab so student chicks sometimes come over to do their homework or whatnot. Lately i haven't seen cute girls in the lab. I've never asked anyone from my classes. For some reason i have irrational fears about it. I still think to much of what others think of me.
 

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Yo all you need to do is sit back next 2 her and come out with some random comment during the course of your class, then the small talk will commence.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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