"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Am i acting like Psycho?

jadeona13

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Ok..so the other day my gf went to the mall with her friend..her friend was meeting up with some guy..the guy brought a friend..so they all went to the movies..my gf texts me and says..''this kid is sitting next to me and hitting on me''..and then she told me that she adn this guy sat in the movies together while her other 2 frriends sat in the back..

She was also wearing perfum which she hasnt worn in months, and extra tight jeans and shirt..she was looking extra good..i said.

how come u wore extra tight jeans that makes ur botty look bigger and perfume only to the mall but never just with me?

and with an attitude she said 'bcuz i like to wear pants when i go out and i just remember to put on perfume''

then she proceed to say that i am acting like a psychoo when i was just looking out..

was i really acting like a psycho when i said that?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SilverSonnet

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Dude, Psycho isn't the word. Jealous is the word. Man, who is she going out with? you or him? That's what I thought, she's a woman, she's TRYING to make you jealous. Dont fall for it, and if she does cheat on you. Drop her ass like a pancake, have some self respect and show her your a DJ, a man of class and you wont take any bullsh!t, right?

Good man

Ben ;)
 

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You're not a psycho. She's seeing what else is out there. You have to play this right, but it's probably not going to turn out well. I say cut bait.
 

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You are being normal... her friend knows she is bored with you and is trying to turn her out... and "your" GF is also very curious about the guys her friend is hoing with...LOL What can you do? NOTHING! You need to go hang with some hot chicks and make sure she knows you are doing it...
 

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jadeona13 said:
my gf texts me and says..''this kid is sitting next to me and hitting on me''..
She is the puppet master and you are the puppet. She knew this would get a rise out of you and she did this on purpose. Sounds to me like she doesn't value you or respect you a whole lot.

A better response was to text her back with "that's cool he must know you are a really good kisser, have fun".

For the long term I would be looking to date other girls because this one sounds like its about to be expired.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tick37

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SilverSonnet said:
Dude, Psycho isn't the word. Jealous is the word. Man, who is she going out with? you or him? That's what I thought, she's a woman, she's TRYING to make you jealous. Dont fall for it, and if she does cheat on you. Drop her ass like a pancake, have some self respect and show her your a DJ, a man of class and you wont take any bullsh!t, right?

Good man

Ben ;)
Good response!

Dude, if you fall for her little game, you'll just look like a douche. Don't even let it phase you. Back off a little and start doing your own thing because 2 can play at that game. Show her and tell her that you can live without her. Make it known that it wouldn't bother you much if she took off with someone else. Act the opposite of jealous!
 

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If it bothers you, then let her know. Just don't get emotional.

If she is still acting shady then dump her. No point in being in a relationship that gives you a headache.
 

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As I've been preaching as of late, if she's going to cheat she's going to cheat.

If you watch her every move then slip up one time bam, she's done it and didn't miss a beat.

If you try and stop her from hanging out with other guys, she's going to do it anyway.

Don't believe that she's not going to cheat on because you practice this DJ thing. Anybody can get cheated on, on any day at any given moment.

Being a DJ doesn't exclude you from that category.
 

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Juan_Man said:
If it bothers you, then let her know. Just don't get emotional.

If she is still acting shady then dump her. No point in being in a relationship that gives you a headache.
Yeah this advice I agree with. Let her know that you don't like it. But don't let it looks like it phases you. Don't act jealous. Just say something like "You know, going out on dates with other guys isn't cool."

If you don't want to then just blow her off. Technically she already did cheat by going out with another guy. Don't fall for her crap about her not knowing he was coming. She knew. Personally, I think you should end it. You'll have the upper hand.
 

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ezily said:
Yeah this advice I agree with. Let her know that you don't like it. But don't let it looks like it phases you. Don't act jealous. Just say something like "You know, going out on dates with other guys isn't cool."

If you don't want to then just blow her off. Technically she already did cheat by going out with another guy. Don't fall for her crap about her not knowing he was coming. She knew. Personally, I think you should end it. You'll have the upper hand.

whats havin the upper hand?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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tick37

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jadeona13 said:
whats havin the upper hand?
Basically, it is having her play by your rules.
 
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