"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Am I about to stick my **** in crazy? (I'd prefer not to)

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Young Juan

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I met this girl at a club back in August. She got pissy when I played it cool and didn't answer her texts immediately. I told her I don't drop everything I'm doing to check my texts, live with it. She also told me she was looking for something serious right off the bat, and I told her I prefer to take it slow and see where things go. That's as far as it went and communication stopped.

Fast forward to last night, she hits me up out of the blue at 11pm. My first thought is booty call, Giggity Giggity goo. Apparently she was going through old numbers, deleting numbers she didn't need anymore and came across me. She'd apparently gone through some stuff since we last left off but was curious about me and wanted too see if I was interested in giving things a second chance. Once again, this is all out of the blue and leans the needle towards crazy. Also, sometime between then and now she tried to friend me on Facebook which I ignored. I took the bait last night and said, okay let's give it a shot and see what happens.
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I woke up to a text saying "good morning luv". My crazy senses started tingling. Are they on point and sensing a lonely bat shyts, or am I over reacting?

I try to live by the sage advice: don't stick your dyck in crazy...but I am thinking of a hit and run here...which is the worst with crazy! Heylp!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Never dated a BPD, but from everything I've read from those who have.... run. Hide. Don't go a step further. Read up on all the BPD reports here... again, run. Duck. It's not too late, but don't freaking see this girl and tell her there's someone else, and just fade from her life.
 
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you might be over reacting here.

give it a shot and if she annoys you, then you know what to do.
 
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don't know the BPD signs...what are they?
 
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Doesn't really seem BPD from this alone. I think you're overreacting. She doesn't seem crazy to me. Seems like she wanted something serious but thought you were a player, so she dropped you, and just decided to give you a second chance when she saw your number. She probably just wants some D.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vidrio said:
Doesn't really seem BPD from this alone. I think you're overreacting. She doesn't seem crazy to me. Seems like she wanted something serious but thought you were a player, so she dropped you, and just decided to give you a second chance when she saw your number. She probably just wants some D.
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You got to admit that the morning text is a bit much. She doesn't talk for a while, then he's suddenly the first thing on her mind when she wakes up?
 
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You got to admit that the morning text is a bit much. She doesn't talk for a while, then he's suddenly the first thing on her mind when she wakes up?
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It's a bit much, but from the OP there's no signs of BPD. Sending a good morning text isn't that big of a deal. She probably sent the same to five other guys.
 
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I don't think it's that horrible, man, give it a shot.
 
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