"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Am I about to stick my **** in crazy? (I'd prefer not to)

Young Juan

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I met this girl at a club back in August. She got pissy when I played it cool and didn't answer her texts immediately. I told her I don't drop everything I'm doing to check my texts, live with it. She also told me she was looking for something serious right off the bat, and I told her I prefer to take it slow and see where things go. That's as far as it went and communication stopped.

Fast forward to last night, she hits me up out of the blue at 11pm. My first thought is booty call, Giggity Giggity goo. Apparently she was going through old numbers, deleting numbers she didn't need anymore and came across me. She'd apparently gone through some stuff since we last left off but was curious about me and wanted too see if I was interested in giving things a second chance. Once again, this is all out of the blue and leans the needle towards crazy. Also, sometime between then and now she tried to friend me on Facebook which I ignored. I took the bait last night and said, okay let's give it a shot and see what happens.
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I woke up to a text saying "good morning luv". My crazy senses started tingling. Are they on point and sensing a lonely bat shyts, or am I over reacting?

I try to live by the sage advice: don't stick your dyck in crazy...but I am thinking of a hit and run here...which is the worst with crazy! Heylp!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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HalfPUAHalfAFC

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Never dated a BPD, but from everything I've read from those who have.... run. Hide. Don't go a step further. Read up on all the BPD reports here... again, run. Duck. It's not too late, but don't freaking see this girl and tell her there's someone else, and just fade from her life.
 

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you might be over reacting here.

give it a shot and if she annoys you, then you know what to do.
 

Young Juan

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don't know the BPD signs...what are they?
 

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Doesn't really seem BPD from this alone. I think you're overreacting. She doesn't seem crazy to me. Seems like she wanted something serious but thought you were a player, so she dropped you, and just decided to give you a second chance when she saw your number. She probably just wants some D.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Vidrio said:
Doesn't really seem BPD from this alone. I think you're overreacting. She doesn't seem crazy to me. Seems like she wanted something serious but thought you were a player, so she dropped you, and just decided to give you a second chance when she saw your number. She probably just wants some D.
You got to admit that the morning text is a bit much. She doesn't talk for a while, then he's suddenly the first thing on her mind when she wakes up?
 

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IronDJ said:
You got to admit that the morning text is a bit much. She doesn't talk for a while, then he's suddenly the first thing on her mind when she wakes up?
It's a bit much, but from the OP there's no signs of BPD. Sending a good morning text isn't that big of a deal. She probably sent the same to five other guys.
 

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I don't think it's that horrible, man, give it a shot.
 
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