"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Am I about to stick my **** in crazy? (I'd prefer not to)

Young Juan

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I met this girl at a club back in August. She got pissy when I played it cool and didn't answer her texts immediately. I told her I don't drop everything I'm doing to check my texts, live with it. She also told me she was looking for something serious right off the bat, and I told her I prefer to take it slow and see where things go. That's as far as it went and communication stopped.

Fast forward to last night, she hits me up out of the blue at 11pm. My first thought is booty call, Giggity Giggity goo. Apparently she was going through old numbers, deleting numbers she didn't need anymore and came across me. She'd apparently gone through some stuff since we last left off but was curious about me and wanted too see if I was interested in giving things a second chance. Once again, this is all out of the blue and leans the needle towards crazy. Also, sometime between then and now she tried to friend me on Facebook which I ignored. I took the bait last night and said, okay let's give it a shot and see what happens.
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I woke up to a text saying "good morning luv". My crazy senses started tingling. Are they on point and sensing a lonely bat shyts, or am I over reacting?

I try to live by the sage advice: don't stick your dyck in crazy...but I am thinking of a hit and run here...which is the worst with crazy! Heylp!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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HalfPUAHalfAFC

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Never dated a BPD, but from everything I've read from those who have.... run. Hide. Don't go a step further. Read up on all the BPD reports here... again, run. Duck. It's not too late, but don't freaking see this girl and tell her there's someone else, and just fade from her life.
 

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you might be over reacting here.

give it a shot and if she annoys you, then you know what to do.
 

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don't know the BPD signs...what are they?
 

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Doesn't really seem BPD from this alone. I think you're overreacting. She doesn't seem crazy to me. Seems like she wanted something serious but thought you were a player, so she dropped you, and just decided to give you a second chance when she saw your number. She probably just wants some D.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Vidrio said:
Doesn't really seem BPD from this alone. I think you're overreacting. She doesn't seem crazy to me. Seems like she wanted something serious but thought you were a player, so she dropped you, and just decided to give you a second chance when she saw your number. She probably just wants some D.
You got to admit that the morning text is a bit much. She doesn't talk for a while, then he's suddenly the first thing on her mind when she wakes up?
 

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IronDJ said:
You got to admit that the morning text is a bit much. She doesn't talk for a while, then he's suddenly the first thing on her mind when she wakes up?
It's a bit much, but from the OP there's no signs of BPD. Sending a good morning text isn't that big of a deal. She probably sent the same to five other guys.
 

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I don't think it's that horrible, man, give it a shot.
 
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