"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ALWAYS treat them like sh*t - no exceptions

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They say "No mistakes in life, only lessons."

Well, here's my lesson: I'm usually categorized as the selfish bad boy, not because I want to be like that, it's just my disposition and the pain in the past that turned me into a jerk.

Now, I heard that women in their late 20s / early 30s get tired of the bad boy, so I was nice to that 29 yo chick, while I continued to treat all the other plates like sh*t. Now guess what? All the other chicks are stalking me, I can't get 'em out my face while that 29 yo chick friendzoned me.

Now I learned it the hard way: ALWAYS treat them like sh*t. Women take kindness for blindness.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Most girls that i have treated well, has taken my kindness for granted!!

Every biitch that i never gave a fuk about, end up all over me... i,m killing the nice in me for fuking good
 

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Hmmm. I'm not sure treating anyone like sh1t will get one far. I do, however, treat girls like the little child brats they are. Kind but firm.
 

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But how do you treat them like sh*t?

I think of it in this way:

- replying with as few as one word
- not talking to them
- pointing out the obvious sh*tty behaviour

But I guess when responding so little and never initiating contact they would lose IL?

What do you do that is considered sh'tty behaviour?
 

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SayWhat said:
But how do you treat them like sh*t?

I think of it in this way:

- replying with as few as one word
- not talking to them
- pointing out the obvious sh*tty behaviour

But I guess when responding so little and never initiating contact they would lose IL?

this will only work on some chicks tho.. i agree on pointing out or calling them out on ****ty bahaviour.. but it all depends on the girl

if she realises her mistake & apologizes, then thats good..

but some will create a drama for calling them out, and try to make you feel feel like the bad guy!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wtf happened again? Jumping to conclusions out of rage and isolated bad experiences.
 

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Women will tolerate disrespect only for so long (which is a novelty to some), and then will eject permanently.

Treat ALL with respect, but accept no disrespect. Weakness only exists in the acceptance of disrespect, not in the showing of respect.
 

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You really don't have to treat women like sh!t. You just have to not care one way or another about any particular woman. Treat all women EXACTLY the same. Be kind, but not a push over. Be respectful and expect to be treated likewise.
 

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If one prioritizes and respects himself first, all these ancillary, tactical questions of behavior fall by the wayside.
 

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guru1000 said:
Women will tolerate disrespect only for so long (which is a novelty to some), and then will eject permanently.

Treat ALL with respect, but accept no disrespect. Weakness only exists in the acceptance of disrespect, not in the showing of respect.

I agree.. no point in treating a woman like crap, she isn't going to hang around too long..

but DO NOT allow a woman to treat you with disrespect.. no matter how good looking she is or amazing the sex is..

do not be afraid to NEXT a woman who you feel is not treating you well
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have a question?

If you feel a woman has disrespected you, and you call her out on her BS

what if she is the drama queen type & creates an argument.. rather than just simply apologizing??

what if she has the victim mentality
 

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soulforge said:
I have a question?
If you feel a woman has disrespected you, and you call her out on her BS
Calling her out will achieve little. Making her aware of the transgression as to test her future compliance is entirely acceptable.

soulforge said:
what if she is the drama queen type & creates an argument.. rather than just simply apologizing??
Create space or drop her.
 

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guru1000 said:
Women will tolerate disrespect only for so long (which is a novelty to some), and then will eject permanently.

Treat ALL with respect, but accept no disrespect. Weakness only exists in the acceptance of disrespect, not in the showing of respect.
Agree with this.

I find myself in the same situation op does, I treat women like crap not because I want but because it comes natural to me.

Well it works great for months, then they either get destroyed and leave the toxic relationship or are simply dragged away from their friends.

Still better than being a nice guy in terms of results, but its the wrong choice for your own benefit in the long term, and its wrong also because you may happen to mistreat some girl which treats you good, I lost an amazing quality girl because of that.

First time in my life I seriously tought I should make an effort to be less of an a$$hole.
 
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