"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think the title speaks for itself. Ive been lurking on this site for a while, and I know its all about thinking positive and having an aura of confidence - but lately Ive gone in the opposite direction and I don't know how to stop it.

I know that I have plenty of things going for me in my life. I have career goals (I plan to go to grad school), I have hobbies, plenty of friends and acquiescence's, etc, but lately Ive become so intimidated and self-conscious around people I'm constantly trying to watch what I say, do...so I end up in the background, retreating from a lot of social interactions.

I think I'm starting to have a real problem, and I don't want to keep going down this path. My thoughts are constantly in the negative. The reasons why this has happened are entirely unclear to me, but I don't want to be like this.

I think I just need some words of inspiration...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do you know what self-confidence really means? People can't get it when they don't know what it is.

You've got to believe in yourself. You have to see value in yourself (I say it all the time now). You have to know that you are one of a kind and there is no one else like you. It's your life, and you own it. Make it the best, and don't take any less. Don't let other people define who you are. Don't talk in ways that say, "I'm not good enough," like saying, "please return my call". You will not get respect if you don't respect yourself.
 
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F*ck everybody, f*ck what they think...tell yourself that and believe it...thats what i did.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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