"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Always Next A Girl For Having A Kid?

SgtSplacker

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The way I see it a woman with a child needs to make up for that inconvenience to you. From looking over the the dating sites women look for men with ingredient stickers on them practically. So why not expect something more from her? Now i'm not going into exactly what I would expect from her because we all have different needs. I just feel that these relationships should not fall into the man pursues and instigates everything scenario. She needs to try harder than regular women with more to offer period.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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thinkinblue613

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Red flag all the way.

Not only because she has a kid, but you are not even stable enough to handle this relationship if it escalates into something more serious. Don't forget that you have to feed and help yourself before helping anyone else. Regardless of dating women, you need to get your sh!t together first bro.

Since you're going to go for it anyways... Just remember, when it comes for her to choose between you and her daughter, she will pick the kid nine times out of nine.
 

Asasione

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I absolutely agree with the idea of it, though emotions tend to play a major role in people's decisions. My friends gf had a kid with another guy while they were together, she claims she was pregnant before they got together. Well the kids out and a major burden on him and I can't stomach how he can tolerate it, being 23 and dealing with kids is a fools errand. In conclusion he should next her ass but he ain't listening to me, sadly:cry:
 

Deadly_Ripped

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I think that you should try it out, and if it doesn't work then you can use that life experience to make a judgement about the next single mom that you meet, unless of course you end up staying with this one.

Every woman is a little different, and some make bad decisions or have accidents in their youth that they pay for throughout their young-adult life. If her motherhood doesn't bother you, then that's all that really matters.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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joverby

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I appreciate your varied advice. I think this is one of those questions you can only answer for yourself. Just because every person is different including the potential MILF. Some will be cooler than others and be more available than others.

I'm going to give her a call before Friday to meet me out when I play. I think it will be worth it to try it out. I'm pretty confident it can end in a lay anyway. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
 
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