"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Always have a back-up quarterback

WestCoaster

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The 49ers had Steve Young behind Joe Montana, the St. Louis Rams won with Trent Green or Kurt Warner or Mark Bolger. The Eagles won with A.J. Feeley filling in for Donovan McNabb. Get the idea?

How does this relate to life and DJism? Well, none of these teams saw injuries coming to their starting QBs, but they were prepared when it happened.

Now that backup QB may be another woman or it may be just another event for YOU to participate in. Example: I'm hoping to go to dinner with a hottie friend of mine on Thursday. She's a notorious flake and has bailed on some things in the past. Knowing this, I have a backup QB: I found a neat accoustic guitar concert on campus (I work at a college) the same time this gal may flake out on me. No biggie. If she flakes, I'm listening to good tunes, with or without her.

I used to wait for friends or girls to go with me to certain movies. Sometimes I had dates, but the times I waited for flakey girls or friends to go, the movie was gone and left town (I've lived in a lot of small towns, lack of theatres).

I discovered that if they're not going to go or put me off, I'd just pick up and go to the movie by myself. I don't care if people at the theatre thought I was a loner or weird, they don't know me anyway so why is their opinion important?

My backup QB was the movie -- by myself. I did what I wanted to do: see the movie!

Whether it's another woman or another event, ALWAYS have a backup QB.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I usually do this when I ask a girl out (to hang out/date) it always seems to be THE GIRL that always flakes out on something simple like movies or mini-golf. I always have a couple dude friends to call up and ask if they wanna chill at a bar/pool or I just do something productive like clean my apt to working out.
 
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