"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Always have a back-up quarterback

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The 49ers had Steve Young behind Joe Montana, the St. Louis Rams won with Trent Green or Kurt Warner or Mark Bolger. The Eagles won with A.J. Feeley filling in for Donovan McNabb. Get the idea?

How does this relate to life and DJism? Well, none of these teams saw injuries coming to their starting QBs, but they were prepared when it happened.

Now that backup QB may be another woman or it may be just another event for YOU to participate in. Example: I'm hoping to go to dinner with a hottie friend of mine on Thursday. She's a notorious flake and has bailed on some things in the past. Knowing this, I have a backup QB: I found a neat accoustic guitar concert on campus (I work at a college) the same time this gal may flake out on me. No biggie. If she flakes, I'm listening to good tunes, with or without her.

I used to wait for friends or girls to go with me to certain movies. Sometimes I had dates, but the times I waited for flakey girls or friends to go, the movie was gone and left town (I've lived in a lot of small towns, lack of theatres).

I discovered that if they're not going to go or put me off, I'd just pick up and go to the movie by myself. I don't care if people at the theatre thought I was a loner or weird, they don't know me anyway so why is their opinion important?

My backup QB was the movie -- by myself. I did what I wanted to do: see the movie!

Whether it's another woman or another event, ALWAYS have a backup QB.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

DJ_Dork

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I usually do this when I ask a girl out (to hang out/date) it always seems to be THE GIRL that always flakes out on something simple like movies or mini-golf. I always have a couple dude friends to call up and ask if they wanna chill at a bar/pool or I just do something productive like clean my apt to working out.
 
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