"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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always getting labelled as provider

joe45

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How come every girl.I.meet or day2 treats me as provider as oh what do you drive , what's your.job and education and goes into detail questioning on it. Asking if I own my house too.
I'm not paying for then majority of them and most dates are coffee simple dates.
I.got no fancy ride or dress nice either. H&m ,zara, ...etc
Why do I get labelled as provider and get qualify as that and not sex buddy
Other guys I met.toldme they never get labelled as provider
Btw I'm Chinese and girls are mainly also Chinese who do this to me. Japanese way less like this and Korean is some are and some aren't .
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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zekko

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What difference does it make? They'll still fvck you.

PUA Bro Theory says that you may have to wait an extra date or two for sex if she thinks you're a provider type. But I'm a good provider type (I make good money and I'm stable), and that hasn't been my experience.
 

G_Govan

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Women look at me as a provider because they think I'm a nice guy even before we've talked (that's what a baby face gets a lot of men). The look on their faces when I put my foot down (I have to do this ALL the time) is priceless.

Like Zekko said, it doesn't matter as long as they're into you. Doesn't mean you have to BE a provider.
 

Willard

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I agree with YAboi, I dated 2 chinese women this year and both of them seemed like they just wanted a husband and provider, I guess it wouldn't be so bad because they would cook and clean for me, lol.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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