"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ALWAYS get tripped up...can't this time

sandman6991

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I don't understand it...it's like something happens every time I start to do well with a woman. It feels like there's some force field in the universe that is preventing me from having a girlfriend. I know that's not the case, but, every time, I either mess up, do something stupid, or lose their interest just before it can get to a dating point. It's been going on for too long, and I really do not want it to happen with this girl. She is (and I'm not just saying this) one of the prettiest girls that I have ever talked to, and I would really, really like to make something happen with this girl. Like I expected, there is always an obstacle though. I started talking to her on Myspace a little over a week ago, and it went really well actually, until she didn't reply a couple of times. Although I haven't had the best of luck, the last thing I do is quit when things don't go my way. I sent her this message:

"as much as i enjoyed our chat about shoes and sarcasm...it's gone dead.

which is proof of my theory..it's no fun to talk over myspace...i prefer something more...instant...you have AIM?"

And...to my great pleasure, she replied!

"I do. *Insert screen name*. But, I'm rarely on. And, if I am on, I don't talk a lot. But, if you happen to IM me, I may make an exception."

That was Thursday night. And, she wasn't lying. I haven't seen her on since then, and believe me, I've been looking. There are two things I need your help on.

1. What should I do now? Do I wait for her to get on AIM, or do I send her another message?

2. When I do start talking with her again, what steps should I take to get her on a date?

I know this seems really basic and stupid...but apparently I do not know what to do once I get in these situations, and I don't want to fail again. If it helps any, she goes to a different HS, but we're pretty close...close enough to date.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sandman6991

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So, you think I should just drop it if she doesn't get on AIM?

I'm pretty persistant, but I was thinking of sending her another message (I'm not sure what I'd say) and trying to get her number...but I'm better on AIM than through messages.
 
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