"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Always Act Like They Want You (Because They Do)

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Just a great example of the need to push onward to the next step with any girl.

I went out to a bar tonight with my buddy. I met tons of girls, some of which he already knew. I gamed them all, and I had fun with them all. I felt as though I was playing my cards right, but for the most part I didn't get any concrete signs that I was doing my sh!t the right way. I did get 4 phone numbers tonight, but overall the girls played it cool and didn't show any overt signs of interest.

We got home, and my buddy told me, "Dude, you killed it tonight." I replied, "Ummm, I thought it went okay. I just had fun and didn't give a fvck. Why do you say that? It was okay."

His reply was, "Dude, every time you left to talk to someone else, the entire group of women was like 'Where did Mr. Bond go?'...and as soon as we walked in, the hottest girl in my group of friends asked who you were and if you were single. They couldn't stop talking about you ALL NIGHT."

Which was funnny...as I said, they all played it very cool in front of me. So moral of the story is this - stick to the DJ principles even if it doesn't look like you're getting crazy good responses. They may just be playing it cool. Push onward. I'm gonna bang the b!tchiest/most challenging one soon just for fun. >: D
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My rule has always been "Keep going until she stops you".

If you touch her ass and she doesn't stop you, then kiss her. If she lets you do that.. then f*ck her. :)
 

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Interesting, so you're saying they weren't giving you any signs whatsoever of being into you?
 

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Interesting, so you're saying they weren't giving you any signs whatsoever of being into you?
There were a few small ones. But overall nothing obvious. Certainly nothing like they were saying to each other and my friend.

Funny ****, two more girls from last night slipped their numbers to my buddy and asked him to give it to me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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God damn Mr. Bond, what kind of **** are you on man? What do you look like when you go out?
 

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Agree, though it depends on a girl, some will show signs of interest, some will play it cool and some will be b!tchy.

I have experience with all. One girl was really b!tchy so I was rude to her too, but then grabbed around her waist and pulled her close to me and within a minute we were making out.

With other I was just talking, almost no escalation, no signs of interest from her. Then I told her "Let's go for a walk" put my arm around her and after a while pulled her aside and went for the kill.

So don't get discouraged, though sometimes she might be seriously not interested. Sometimes it's hard to tell but I usually feel it in my gut if she is interested or not.
 

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Mr. Bond said:
- Just a great example of the need to push onward to the next step with any girl.
- as soon as we walked in, the hottest girl in my group of friends asked who you were and if you were single.
-so moral of the story is this - stick to the DJ principles even if it doesn't look like you're getting crazy good responses. They may just be playing it cool. Push onward.
Or you could just look hot.

Come on bro, how can you push onward and upward with tight game when the hottest girl in the bar wanted to meet you without you saying a word?

Your success had some to do with your game, all to do with your looks.
 

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Or you could just look hot.

Come on bro, how can you push onward and upward with tight game when the hottest girl in the bar wanted to meet you without you saying a word?

Your success had some to do with your game, all to do with your looks.
Lol, obviously you have no experience with women.
 

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This is very true, even more so after you've been dating for a while.

There will come times when she displays signs of low interest, and our tendency is to want to complain about it, and say "you don't like me anymore", hoping she will say we are wrong. Bad idea. It comes off as insecure and whiny, and as soon as she realizes you are wondering if she is attracted to you or not, she won't be.

Therefore, you need to fill in the down times with periods of Limited Contact - let that be the normalizing factor. When she acts distant, become distant until she reels you back in, but never suggest you think she's not attracted or it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Trump said:
Or you could just look hot.

Come on bro, how can you push onward and upward with tight game when the hottest girl in the bar wanted to meet you without you saying a word?

Your success had some to do with your game, all to do with your looks.
Nah. I'm not ugly or anything, but I'm not a model either. Pretty average in the looks department.

However, I was the best dressed guy in the bar and I carried myself knowing that I'm the fvcking man. Those are things you don't need to talk to someone to see.


I know jack sh!t about fashion, so I find girls in the mall (or the occasional gay guy if no hotties are around) and I ask their opinions about what I could wear in certain situations. I obviously get the final approval - I have to like the things they're recommending. I look much better when I go out now, and I get lots of compliments on my clothes from women.

Since I'm becoming a little more aware of how to dress myself, I've started to notice a lot of details that women put into their look. It allows me to compliment them on things that most guys would never even notice. They eat that sh!t up because my compliments are sincere, and I don't have an agenda behind them.

Also, most of my game is nonverbal.
 

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dosquito said:
God damn Mr. Bond, what kind of **** are you on man? What do you look like when you go out?
Viagra. B!tches get a flash flood warning in their panties when they see a guy walking around with a contact-your-doctor-if-you-have-a-four-hour-erection boner.
 

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Mr. Bond said:
Nah. I'm not ugly or anything, but I'm not a model either. Pretty average in the looks department.

However, I was the best dressed guy in the bar and I carried myself knowing that I'm the fvcking man. Those are things you don't need to talk to someone to see.


I know jack sh!t about fashion, so I find girls in the mall (or the occasional gay guy if no hotties are around) and I ask their opinions about what I could wear in certain situations. I obviously get the final approval - I have to like the things they're recommending. I look much better when I go out now, and I get lots of compliments on my clothes from women.

Since I'm becoming a little more aware of how to dress myself, I've started to notice a lot of details that women put into their look. It allows me to compliment them on things that most guys would never even notice. They eat that sh!t up because my compliments are sincere, and I don't have an agenda behind them.

Also, most of my game is nonverbal.
Aka inner game fellas
 

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Aka inner game fellas
Yes! Not what you say, but HOW you say it and what you do. I walked into Bath and Body Works the other day and asked a hot girl if she just works there so she can fart all day and no one will know. I left with her number. I guarantee others with weak inner game could say what I said verbatim and get shot down hard.
 

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Mr. Bond said:
Yes! Not what you say, but HOW you say it and what you do. I walked into Bath and Body Works the other day and asked a hot girl if she just works there so she can fart all day and no one will know. I left with her number. I guarantee others with weak inner game could say what I said verbatim and get shot down hard.
You know, every time I come back to these forums I feel slightly sick... and do you know why?
Because when I'm here, I'm allowed to think, and thinking makes me sick, my instinct is much sharper then my mind when it comes to women, but when I come back to these forums my mind is allowed to wander and drown itself.

Protip: When talking to women, don't think of anything, don't think "Does she like me" or anything similar, just talk. The rest comes naturally.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ha thanks, I have a saying, I'll leave it here since I think it's fitting.
"A well placed fist is dangerous, but claws are even deadlier."
 

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Even if she rejects you and stays with her boyfriend, a woman still might be interested in you, and if you can pleasantly walk away, and legitimately no longer be interested, and especially if you hang out in her vicinity (i.e. eat at her restaurant, work with her, etc) she will often start to extend certain overtures a few weeks later and you'll get another chance.
 
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Mr. Bond said:
I gamed them all, and I had fun with them all. I felt as though I was playing my cards right, but for the most part I didn't get any concrete signs that I was doing my sh!t the right way.
The guys at RSD say that the man who gets laid is the one who "entertains himself, always." Not the guy who's trying to entertain everyone else.

I've found this to be true. When you're having a good time and not trying to entertain women but are just entertaining yourself and sort of living in your own moment, that's when they all get inta ya.
 
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