Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Alright guys.. I need your imput on this one. I'm torn
- Thread starter backbreaker
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Secondly, I didn't get tied into some tramp because she had good pvssy and missed out on this woman who is like nothing I have never seen.
I didn't try to make a square peg fit into a round hole (by forcing LTR's with women who didn't fit what i wanted) and eventually I THINK i might have found one that fits.
still being cautiously optimistic.. I'm waiting on her to throw something at me or to cut my **** off or something. my theory on women is that all, and i mean ALL have a down side.. the thing is can you live with that downside or not. I'm waiting to see what her's is. she just hasn't displayed it yet.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I'm about as rational (for the last 4 years anyway) as you will find. that's not a problem.Max Power said:Problem solved.
Trust your gut. But definitely do not listen to your heart. Please please please do not listen to your heart. We all know what happens when we listent to our heart.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Dude, it sounds as if you are in a great situation. Why on earth were you considering something to mess things up?backbreaker said:lol, my gut is telling me to a) even though I really like this girl, go on the date with another girl I already had planned firday night and b) make no deciisons on anything until I take her out of town.
funny thing is, she knows (or at least assumes) I date other women! She told me 'I know you had other women before me and you probably still do.. I don't expect you to drop everyone because of me, but when it comes down to it I'll beat everyone else out"
I'm enjoying the moment.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
As Rollo said in a previous thread, when you only date one woman you get locked in on her and her importance is greatened in your eyes. not saying that that won' happenen, but I'll be damned if I let that happen after 2 months.
we have a mutal respect. she knows I'm into her. I know she likes me.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The man's a genius.backbreaker said:it's not messing up. it's either to be or it's not. you spin your plates and don't let them spin you..